and blaming her soon to be ex-hubby for everything that is wrong with SS9, including his recent requests not to go to her house.

We had been having issues with SS9 requesting to stay at our house (EOW custody) and DH finally got SS9 to open up about why. He said that BM's Hubby (we'll call him Chubby) has been mean to him a lot lately, yelling at him and spanking him for no reason, as well as favoring SS7. SS9 asked DH if he could talk to BM about it so DH pulled her aside a few weeks ago and told her what SS9 had said. She filled out and asked DH how he could be so calm. DH just said he didn't know that whole story maybe there was more to it than SS( was saying. BM is against spanking and DH pointed out to her that years ago when she flipped out about me spanking SS7, DH and I talk about it and worked it out. It was a moment of weakness and furstation on my part which might be the case with Chubby. He can't be pleased with her leaving her kids with him all the time lately while she worked 'late'.

Well she called DH a day later to tell him that it was over between them, BM claimed that SS9 told her that if Chubby continued to live there than he wanted to live with us and as she put that, she couldn't have that. Oddly enough she admitted that Chubby favors SS7 but not that she also does! lol. I can't see SS9 saying that exactly but... who know BM is a habitual liar.

DH works with Chubby - long story - so he had heard a few things around work about the situation. Apparently BM is blaming all SS9 many issues on Chubby, including his anxiety for therapy, and desire not to go there. I don't think that this will fix anything long term. At one point during the 'confrontation' Chubby told her they could work it out and BM said no, DH would hold it over her. Chubby said no he wouldn't and wanted to talk to DH about but BM refused - probably knowing that Chubby was right.

But Chubby - who started officially dating BM just 2 weeks after her divorce from DH - admitted to a co-worker that she likely already has someone else, she has done that before! Another guy where they work even admitted to going home with BM on night at a bar while she was dating Chubby.

BM did however hug and kiss SS9 when we dropped them off last night for the first time in a long time, it even seemed to catch SS9 off guard. I hope this helps but considering that we have seen BM's car parked out side of just about every bar in town of the last week and her 'work schedule' isn't likely to change so SS9 will just get left with someone else whom he will likely come to hate as well. He just wants his mother.

I say 'work schedule' because that day DH told her, she said that she had to work the following Saturday and we might be able to get the boys early but within a day she magically had off.