BM’s back to school shopping spree
My SO pays half of the big expenses for his 7 y.o. daughter so BM uses it as an excuse to go on these spending sprees. But there’s no way my SO can afford it with everything else. I watch every penny but BM doesn’t have to since she only has to pay half and she wastes so much money then complains SO doesn't pay enough.
SO got the bill for his daughter’s back to school stuff. She’s going into 2nd grade, so she already has a lot of stuff. But BM goes ahead and buys her new things anyways.
BM bought a new backpack even though I know she has a perfectly good backpack that she brings over here. It’s 16.99 divided in half, but still that adds up and it’s something that she didn’t need to buy. BM took her clothes shopping at Macys. What the hell does a 7 year old need jeans that cost $21.99 for?
I’ve been going around to yard sales and thrift stores getting clothes for my baby but SD gets $22 jeans she won’t wear now because it’s hot and she’ll grow out of in a few months. SO can’t help out financially with our child because he’s in debt paying for his daughter.
If SO and BM were still together, he’d shoot down this overspending but now he’s an open checkbook. This has got to stop. Financially we’re never going to get anywhere when he’s constantly buy stuff for his daughter she doesn’t need and if she’s used to shopping sprees at Macys at 7, what is she going to be like at 13? She's gonna be such a diva.
I’m tempted to get a bunch of yard sale clothes a few sizes bigger and next year give SD a box of clothes and send BM a bill for half of it.
What do other people do? Does the dad have any say in what BM spends? Can he tell her he doesn’t agree with buying this junk?
SO doesn’t mind paying for things his daughter needs but BM wastes so much money it’s like throwing his hard earned.