9 kids and going crazy
I am new here. I am so glad that I found a place where I can get to know others in my shoes.
I have 4 kids with my ex (4, 7, 12, 17) and my husband has 5 kids (4, 5, 7, 7, 11) with his ex. We have been married for 6 months. We are the primary home for all 9 kids. At first, we considered ourselves the Brady bunch of the 2000's. It seemed everyone was trying and getting along and happy to be a family. It helped that our combined incomes allowed us to buy a gigantic home with lots of property and perks. All 5 of my husband's children are girls. After living together for 6 months, I have found that girls can be the most conniving, irritating things on the planet. The drama that they cause makes me regret marrying their father. I hate being around them. As soon as they walk into the room, I feel ill.
Their mother doesn't want them. She lives across the country in a van with her boyfriend and she hasn't seen the girls for almost 4 years. They all started to call me mom about a week after I met them (2 years ago). Truth be told, I am tired of being their mom. They aren't out of control or very misbehaved, but 9 kids is too many and I am worn out. My husband is a terrible parent and I didn't know that until we moved in together. He really tricked me into thinking that he was Super Dad, but he is more like Doormat Dad. My name is on the house, his car, our boat, and more. We have joint accounts and credit cards. He has told me that if I file for divorce, he won't make it easy on me. He says that I won't be the second mother to run out on his daughters. I don't know what to do.