Wasn't able to get on this weekend due to skids being around all weekend and hogging up the computer. No, SS19 is not special needs, he's a sophomore in college in the fall. He just enjoys being treated like he's still 10 years old, not being made to get his driver's license and driven around like a little kid is driven around to soccer practice. BM is more than willing to oblige, however, SS19 lives with us during the summers and her favorite child is SS17. To a lesser degree but annoying in it's own different ways, DH is more than willing to treat SS19 like a little child as well. SS19 has one of those ridiculous little kid names that will always make him sound like a little kid even as a middle aged man. His greatest wish is to be a little boy again, it's like freaking Peter Pan or Pinnochio. His favorite thing to watch are Disney movies, Pokemon and Dragon Ball Z and gets scared during thunderstorms (no doubt a pearl of wisdom he learned from BM).

SS19 is attending a Christian college and is extremely self-righteous about it... and a know-it-all... and extremely annoying. He walks around the house singing at the top of his lungs and acts like Mr. Prozac one minute and Droopy Dog the next if things aren't going his way. In high school, his friends nicknamed him "little parent". You can imagine how irritating that is for me, the stepmom... as he tries to "parent" me as well. He wants to be second in command to his dad when he's home but at the same time he wants to be treated like he's 10 years old. When he doesn't think he's getting sufficient parenting, he actually attempts to "parent" himself and SS17. One example of this is being obsessively paranoid about him and SS17 wearing sunscreen and telling us he's "not taking any chances" with his baby skin and glomming on to BM's weather drama and "health problem" drama. He also uses the little kid forks and cups and plates in the house and won't use the regular ones.

I don't know how he was able to handle college! He whined the whole year about being homesick and kept begging us to drive 3 hours there and 3 hours back to come for visits. Yet he refuses to get his license, an off campus job or even a bank account!It's not cute AT ALL! I have no hope of DH or BM cutting the cord any time soon.

DH is "guilty dad" even though he had primary placement of both the boys until they were teenagers when SS17 moved in with his mom. His guilt mostly stems from not having raised them in a "Christian home" earlier in their lives. Now he is desperate to make up for that and so he encourages them go to Bible camps during the summer. Also as a result of this, they have been extremely sheltered aka "kept innocent" from around 5th grade on. Not that any of that worked with SS17. SS17 is a sociopath.

SS17 is not special needs either, but he may as well be. He has zero motivation for anything and probably won't even be graduating next year. BM is supposedly "homeschooling" him. However, I wouldn't be surprised if she is doing his work for him or letting him skate by doing nothing. IDK what kind of curriculum she is supposedly "teaching", but I have a feeling something is fishy with that or she got some kind of special ed curriculum... because some of their "school projects" include things like learning how to do laundry and painting Christmas ornaments.

SS17 is mommy's baby and mommy's favorite. BM has PAS'd him over the years. That's why he blames dad for everything that is wrong with his shitty attitude, general laziness and anger issues. SS17 can barely be bothered to clean himself. He smells like the chimpanzee house in the zoo. Literally. So does BM's apartment. It smells like ball sweat and her unwashed snatch all the time. Oh, and the patchouli they use to try to cover the fact that they shower maybe once a month. SS17 and SS19 must like that smell though, since they consider her MOTY and will defend her crap to the end but throw their dad under the bus every chance they get. He stinks up our entire house as soon as he walks in the door. He never brushes his teeth and his breath smells exactly like a turd. He's a walking bio-hazard.

Yep, 18 is nothin' but a number cuz there ain't no end in sight for this stepmom!