Hubby wants to invite intolerable sd24 & 14 along to nephew's wedding
We have my husbands nephew’s wedding reception in a few weeks, hubby asked me last night is it ok to invite his daughters along (the 2 sds who put me in my rightful place beneath them all, who rant about bio mum and stepdads life like they are way more important than us, who feed my kids whatever and do inappropriate things when i say no and claim its ok we’ll do it)
now sd’s were not invited specifically by nephew or his parents because they are so alienated courtesy of bio mum, when they attend family events they refuse to interact with anyone, you get a negative shunning vibe from them which hubbys family don’t want to be around on such a happy occasion
so i told hubby last night, “your daughters are out of line!!”
for starters they feed our kids inappropriate things and do inappropriate stuff and when i say no don’t do that they answer “its ok we’ll give a little”, or we’ll just do it even when in front of their dad, hubby says he told his daughters off firmly that behaviour will not be tolerated and they ask me anytime they want to feed my kids because of cross contamination and allergies of my youngest child, eldest daughter apologized and said she didn’t know.
I called bullshit on that because i said no don’t do it and she or her younger sister answers back that they will do whatever.
Now hubby feels sorry because of their sob story bio mum abandoned them yet surprisingly whenever we’ve met them its rant rant rant on bio mum and stepdads life.
so my feeling is, his kids have no intention of changing their attitude and behaviour and hubby should not subject me, our kids or his family to their negative vibes and shunning of them or treated like outsiders on such a special occasion. Since he can’t successfully address this 1 major thing, no one should feel sorry that they are suddenly lonely when its of their own doing too.. my sils bring it up all the time how confused they are when the sd’s come to family events because they don’t socialise with anyone like we all catch up with everyone on our life and family etc. i get hubby won’t be happy to hear this but trust me he knows his kids are intolerable but to him, they are his kids and he needs to try. Me?? I don’t feel any obligation to suck it up just to keep the peace