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septembers_child's picture

I swear to God, if their was an "in law from hell" contest I would win that sucker hands down..They have been a nightmare from day one. I could tell stories that would make anyones hair stand on end.I just absolutley HATE them, all of them..

About the only one that I can half way tolerate is his younger sister..Didn't say I liked her or trusted her, but I can tolerate her in communication but not in physical presence.She just mostly gives me eye strain because my eye balls roll involentarily when ever I get an email from her. The family always uses her to try to manipulate my husband and tug at his heart strings to try to guilt him into having more contact with his family then he cares to have.

In the past six and a half years, I can count on one hand how many times he has spoken to them on the phone. Him and the kids have seen them twice briefly in the past six and a half years. Because they are all psycho, manipulating, conniving, habitual liars, who are obbssessed with my SD (aka the golden child).

Anyway, his younger sister is an adult version of what my SD would have been had we not gotten her away from his family.. His sister is a 3 year old trapped in a 26 year old body...She was so babied, spoiled, and coddled by his entire family that she still acts like a young child herself..She has NEVER lived outside of her parents roof, she doesn't have a drivers lisence, and she can't fart with out running to her mom to have her butt cleaned and powdered..It's disgusting...

She and her husband have lived with her parents from day one. She got her bacholars degree three years ago..What has she done with it? NOTHING..Recentally the parents sold their home to help little sister and her hubby by a bigger home and yep the parents moved right into that home with them.(let me clarify that I have parents in laws that are leeches and mooch off their children and their children's spouses. They are always trying to stick their fingers in their children's wallets for something or another..makes me sick.)

She worked for about six months and now that she is pregnant she quit her job and her and her hubby have filed for bankruptsy. (I discovered this doing a google search, they didn't tell us and don't know that we know.) So her poor husband is now supporting her, both her lazy mooching parents, and has a baby on the way! Perhaps if her lazy little sister self kept her job and would actually do something with that degree of hers they wouldn't have needed to file for bankrupsty!! Their are four adults living in their household and until July NO children..It's beyond me how four adults can't make the bills to the point that bank ruptsy needs to be filed.

I don't understand the rational..They wanted this baby, she tried and tried for years to get pregnant (which I don't really understand because if she has a baby SHE won't be the baby anymore!)She went to fertilitiy Dr.'s and the whole nine yard..She gets pregnant, quits her job and they file for bankrustpsty...IF they couldn't afford a baby they shouldn't have tried for one! Perhaps they should have both worked and paid their bills off first! A fat part of the bills filed are probably medical bills for little sister who is a hypochonriac.

For about the past two years, little sister has been on the hypochondriac kick. (I personally think, at this point, it's to get sympathy and attention for herself.) Everytime we hear from her she is whinning about this ailment or that ailment..It's always something. To hear her talk you would think she was pushing 100 not 26. She was attending law school on line and said she had to quit do to her various illnesses...Hello??? It's an on line law school...If she is laying in bed all day on her sick (lazy) butt it only requires her to place her lap top on her lap in bed..How can she be "to sick" to do that??? She sure isn't to "ill" to lay in bed with her lap top to be on my space all day!

Anytime Dh has contact with his family that is mostly all that they want to talk about...Oh this family member was in the hospital, that family member has this ailment, this family member died...Sheesh..Do they have ANYTHING GOOD to report?? The older generation (his parents generation) of my hubby's family are in their 60 through 80..In thier younger years they were all hard core drug addicts, criminals, and ex convicts..They all lived a rough life and life style..Is it really such a shock that their health is deteriorating and that they are dying?? Hell I am suprised most of them lived this long, considering the health issues most of them have as a result of their less then upstanding life style when they were younger..Granted, his cousin, age 31, died two months ago..ehhhmmm...from a heroine over dose (they dont' know that we know the truth about that either..They told hubby that she had a blood infection)...The entire family was "shocked and it was unexpected"...Unexpected????Ummm she was an IV heroin addict....

The one thing I always try to avoid is ever asking his little sister "How you doing?" because It always results in a laundry list of her latest ailments. As sick as she claims to be all the time. I am surpised the dr's feel she is healthy enough to care a baby to full term..(I worry about Malchousin syndrom by proxy after the baby is born.) I only hear from her rarly when she wants DH to call or wants info on DH anway...I don't contact her because, frankly, she nauseates me with all her ailments and going on about those of the family members.

So dh sent her a two sentence email wishing her a happy Easter and made the mistake of asking how she is doing.. she sends back a two sentence email and the first thing out of her mouth in reply is that she is sick with such and such and how hubby didn't call on easter and that "everyone" hopes he does real soon!

Yep, they hope he calls real soon..But do you think..ONE of them offers to help pay for the international calls to call them in the states??? Nope...Same when he was in combat in IRAQ..His family called me all the time to nag me to "have DH call them" but they didn't once offer to put minutes on his calling card..It was myself and my parents that kept him in calling card minutes in IRAQ..About 20 varies sundries of people expected DH to call them from IRAQ but they all expected ME and DH to pay for those calls. (Real supportive of their brother and son in combat huh?) When it was suggested that they help pay for the calls they expected to receive. Not one of them put one red cent on his calling card...

I had to bite my tongue..Because I wanted to tell DH that if they want to hear from him so badly and hope he calls more often and real soon..Perhaps all four of the adults living in that house could come up with six bucks a peice to buy him a calling card...He has called them three times in the year we have been here and "the Golden Child" has been in bed asleep everytime...And she will continue to be.. Those people just don't have anything to teach her on influence her with that I care to have her learn...They are a huge part of the reason she has been such a night mare the past six and a half years in the first place!!

Sorry, I know that this isn't really STEP kid related..But I just had to have a place to get this out..because they just drive me nuts and make my blood boil..

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Cruella's picture

Hey don't feel bad about venting. That is what we are here for. My husband says he sees a change in my attitude since I found this website. Instead of venting on him I vent here.

I know how family can drive you nuts and especially in laws. My ex MIL was the MIL from hell!! My ex inlaws were one french fry short of a happy meal so I can relate. My inlaws are all into themselves and have very little to do with us. THANK GOD!!!

septembers_child's picture

Yep, the cheese done slide off the cracker with my current inlaws..Though I don't believe the cheese was ever firmly on the cracker to begin with..

Now my in laws, especially my MIL from my first marraige is wonderful..We have had a very close relationship over the past 20 soemthing years and have continued to do so after myself and her son divorced..she is more like a "mom" to me then my own mom is..In fact, she just spent 12 days with our family here in Germany..DH just loves my first MIL...LOL

dbsojo's picture

This really, really makes me appreciate Mic's family. I am sorry that you have to deal with this, but your sharing has given me a new perspective.