I don't even know where to begin. All was blending well until my hubby and I got married nearly 2 1/2 years ago. My hubby's son (13) refuses to visit and now my stepdaughter (16) seems to be pulling away. I feel that biomom is very much using tactics.of parental alienation especially now that she is remarried and has "perfect blended family". My ex and I co parent with our son fine and the things this Biomom does I would never ever inflict pain or loyalty binds on my own child. Everything we do and say is relayed back to biomom. Most of it of course is harmless and we don't care. But many times it is used against us and my hubby. At first I thought my step daughter wouldn't intentionally relay things back to her mom to cause drama. But recently I believe otherwise. This is just ONE example. Hubby got some cbd oil to rub on his sprained wrist. He was telling me and his daughter about it and was hoping it would help. Now this morning bm sent my hubby a text asking what "ailment is he seeking cbd oil for". Now this may seem trivial but bio mom and step daughter are always always always texting each other. My hubby doesn't interfere because he knows his daughter is very close to her mother. My issue is any innocent or personal discussions that we have in our home are related back to biomom in which she uses it against hubby. Whether it is to guilt him into more money (he always paid child support on time no issues) or to tell him how he doesn't care about his kids if he is buying xyz for our home. I'm tired of this and no longer feel comfortable in my own home when my step daughter is around because I feel there are no boundaries or respect for my hubby's or my home or the decisions we make. We live under a magnifying glass and no matter what we do or say it is wrong in biomoms eyes therefore also wrong in the kids eyes. My son is only 5 and I try to focus on him and make sure he has a good relationship with my ex as well as my hubby. However I want so badly to have a good relationship with my step kids but I feel it will never happen because of biomom and their blind loyalty and acceptance of whatever she says is true. How do I navigate this?