Tax Refund Season
I really don't envy the people who have to navigate sharing the expanded credits with BM, DH never claims SD14 so we don't have that issue.
But I did have some other issues this year.
BM always tries to extract big money from DH around tax season. It's also time to sign up for summer programs and this year SD wants to go on a travel program which is stupid expensive, $5000 for a week to central america. DH says no, it's too much money. BM rants that this will help her get into college, he's a lousy father, she knows he's got the money, where is all his tax return, it should be spent on his child, etc etc...DH didn't engage and said to me "if I'm paying $2500 for someone to go to central america it's going to be us." BM is refusing to let SD come to our house (what else is new).
The other issue is that our refund came into a joint account that DH basically ignores. It's mostly my account but his name is on it. It gets some money from each of my checks and is used for daycare cost and to pay a home improvement loan. Usually the refund went into DHs account and he'd give me half. This year it went into the bill accont and my husband acted weird about it. Frankly we need to keep it for a rainy day and I don't think that needs any more explanation.
He started asking weird about it after BMs rant and I think if he had easy access to the account he would have given her the 2500 for the travel program. Bullet dodged, I need that money for daycare costs for our two DD's!!