What we are trying to do is compare. We requested these documents from her over 6 months ago and last week she requested the last 3 years of checks that were written. Copies of the checks and all. I finally took out her statements to look at them because she is going to try and down grade us based on our NSF's but when looking through hers she has just as many as we do. Our attorney took these statements to prove that she was not paying my SD's medical bills and to our suprise we found that even though she had an extra $7000.00 put into her checking account she was still not paying these bills. I also see where you are coming from because I don't feel that it is any more our business as it is hers. But BM just requested all of our family photos. I guess I really am not sure why she requested thse but I guess if she wants to sit in the corner and wish she had what I have she can. I really hope she cries every night knowing she is the problem in this case.

She wants our family photos. We had to collect and send every single one of our family photos and give them to our attorney. I think what she is trying to do is drag us through the coals thinking that we will give up. Well guess what we have no intentions of giving up. We have had 50/50 custody for the last 3 years and it works great other than BM being so controlling and saying that we are bad parents to everyone in our town. Obviously BM has nothing better to do since BM is single and can't keep a boyfriend. Just to let you know we would have never asked to see statements until she asked for ours which brought up a light bulb because she obviously has something to hide. I wish this was over and please pray for us.

Our attorney will not give her any original photos. She stated that she will make copies on the printer in black and white. Attorney went through all of our pictures and will be picking which ones she wants to send. I think that the stuff that they have requested is nonsense. The only reason I would think that they have requested this is because she has no evidence to take to court with them so they are picking anything they can. Has anyone ever went to court and lost what they had prior due to little things like not getting along or BM claiming bogus things and making up lies? Thanks for all of your help and support.

From what we have BM is going to try to say that SD doesn't want to be away from her for two weeks. She has friend's that will testify that SD has said this. SD is only 7 and I feel that she is not at the age to make this kind of stuff up on her own. SD is very happy in our house but I think she feels like she has to say that stuff in front of BM. We meet with the GAL Tuesday and I hope he can see that SD is happy and no changes should be made but that will be up to the courts. I know how you feel though when you have to always be 2 steps ahead of the game. Because what we play is a big ugly game and it really sucks.

I agree we have spent so much money for courts in the last 3 years. This year is going to be the hardest. We have spent so much money that we can't even afford gifts for Christmas. I just pray that this is over with and the results are in our favor.

Does it really take that long to get a verdict back. Thats crazy. The first time we went to court with BM the judge told us before we left what he was going to order so I hope the judge does the same this time but with Christmas following our court date I doubt he will. I will be praying for you as well. I don't know what I would do with out this site.

I just got an email from the attorney about the pictures. She tells us that the pictures are not going to help Bm out any but help out our case even more. We were awarded in 2004 50/50 with 2 weeks on and 2 weeks off with a mid week visit, the papers say from 6-8 but we have agreed to 5:00 to 8:00. Everytime BM has asked to switch times we have allowed it and when ever we ask she won't allow it. She has even went as far as telling my H "take that A**hole". We do have this on tape by the way and we can use it in court. BM also states that we call her bad names. According to BM we say things in front of SD which is not true, I think BM tells SD to say that we do. BM even got the teacher to sign a letter stating that SD was upset saying that SM and H were calling BM bad names. Also with the checks our attorney told us that BM won't be able to tell anything from them other than she will be spending $40.00 / hour to have the bank process these checks and present them. BM also is stating that we refuse SD medical treatment but we have paid every bill that has been presented to us and also taken SD to the dr. when needed. Well as you all know GAL is coming over tonight and I am really nervous and am not sure what to expect. Also our attorney stated that GAL has 10 days prior to court to submit a report so we can review it so taht makes me a little bit better.

We just met with the GAL last night and he told us that he is going to request that the attorneys come to an agreement and not take this to court. When he met with SD he had us stay in the room and he just asked her questions about school and what her favorite thing to do was.