Meat Shields for my DH
The weekend with SD15 is over. It's clear she's jealous of our kids. She had no problem with them when they were tiny now that they're becoming real people she's got a problem. We had to rationalize and defend everything we did for them, from the fact that they "get" to go to daycare (ah yes I get to spend 10s of thousands on daycare) down to giving them bowls for chips rather than let them take from a larger bowl like the 3 grown people. SD acted like anything we did was giving them special treatment. DH said they had a good talk on the way to drop off so I hope that was real and not just an optimistic take.
I was enjoying the return to normal when last night DH called on his way home from work and said she wants to come again in 2 weeks, oh and she talked to MeddlesomeSIL and she's picking her up, wonderful meddlesomeSIL is back to her old ways of being SDs chaperone. If MeddlesomeSIL is coming she will probably bring along MIL and FIL. DH said he has to work that weekend and had the gall to say "maybe your in laws will be able to help you since I can't be there." Oh so I have to deal with your family without you? And you decided this without me? "Yeah I guess so."
He has put up all these boundaries with his family because they cause drama for him but I feel like he's keeping his boundary now and using me and our kids like meat shields! The in laws get to see our kids and he doesn't have to see them. It's the perfect plan. A$$hole.
He is playing dumb and acting like it's NBD and SD just wants to spend time with her sisters and aunt. I did notice that DH didn't say "sisters, aunt and you."
So since this was all planned without my involvement (because meddlesomeSIL always cuts me out) I'm just going to plan a bunch of fun stuff with my kids, the dinosaur park, splash pad, zoo, aquarium, art museum... I mean if DH has to work why should I sit at home twiddling my thumbs waiting for his family to show up when they didn't have the decency to plan this with me or when to expect them?