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Divirce delays...how fun.

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I should have just had everything court filed back in June. I didn't..  I made him an offer...and told him to take it to a lawyer. He didn't. So I filed through the courts, and had him served.

I walked him through everything he would need... Financial info, etc.. I had even packed everything he'd need into the same box as his regular-use items so they'd be handy...

He was supposed to respond to my filing by Sept 30

Sept 29 late afternoon I get an email from his lawyer saying he had to apply to receive a copy of his taxes for the last 3 years with our tax agency, and requesting an extension to the response deadline to October 18th... what a twit. 

Thing with that... if I say no.. I can be forced to pay his fees... so I wrote back saying he had all his stuff, and that he can get a copy from the tax filing place.. so partial acceptance of extension... to the 11th.

I signed the firm and emailed it back.. they came back on October 1 that they could only get 2018 from the tax place.. and re-requested to Oct 18.. saying that he's indicated I never gave him the copies...

So again.. I replied he already had the docs for 2018, 2019 and 2020.. but that I would email a pdf copy of 2019 and 2020, since clearly it was too difficult for him to locate the box that was clearly labeled.. lol I sent a picture of the box, showing the docs inside, and a video of him picking up that box and placing it in his truck... saying that if he still can't locate the box he very clearly took, that I was sure the tax place could give him a copy of 2018

She just replied "thank you, I have reviewed the Financials and will file a response today"

I am running out of Nice. 

I made him an offer at first... he'd have walked away with about 20k worth of stuff had he accepted it. Financial calculations demonstrate he will owe me about 3000. I think the lawyer clued in.. because his copy of taxes include some if my financial info as well...he ain't getting shit. Lol

Check mate.

 

 

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TheAccidentalSM's picture

I'm in awe at how prepared you were for tomfoolery.

secret's picture

Oh yes. I'm not playing any games. I have video of me entering the kid's old room to pack it all up... showing I was careful with everything and packed it all up nicely... I also made sure to show how piss stained the carpet and bed were as well as the damage to the blinds, walls and closet doors..

I have video of me taking all his stuff and packing it all carefully as well... and had my kid record me moving his crap over to the kids room while waiting for pick up... and left a nanny cam in the room showing nobody went in before pick up time

 

I've gotten text history of everything printed and scanned with highlighted portions, little post it notes, and a numbered table of contents...  

I have the history with the school showing when I backed off as well as a description of my involvement as stepparent..which was essentially nothing... confirmed with children's aid last year.... 

There is nothing he can come at me with, other than half my pension gains over that time.. and that's peanuts. I do have, however, text exchanges where we are arguing about him refusing to put any money aside in an optional pension fund, saying he'd just live off mine..and me saying NFW over and over.. that his financial irresponsibility would not be my problem and I would not be supporting him if we make it to retirement still together..

He can suck it *blush*

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Little update... his lawyer emailed me again today asking for my Financials, as well as for the balance statement for the SUV we got in july 2019.

I didn't mention in my original post, that when I kicked him out, he stopped paying everything, including 400$ a month towards the SUV. 

He didn't pay 1200$ for June, July, or August...yet lived bill free during that time in my trailer on a campground. 

I don't have access to the Ford account.. and I tried to get him to sign it over to me so I could take over the payments and debt. He refused.. now I'm dodging repo.

Told the lawyer I don't have access but that I tried to get the account info to pay..he refused to provide it and refused to pay... the auto payments came out of my account, so I put a stop to those.  I also paid 1058$ for brakes/rotors and maintenance stuff.

She asked for me Financials for the last 3 years, as well as my last 3 pay statements. I'm only required to provide my Financials within 10 days of his filed response, so that's when I'll provide them.. not before.

My last 3 pay statements are very inflated because I got a significant raise after I kicked him out as well as worked buttloads of overtime... seems he's going to try to go for spousal support and child support... I laugh at the child support part since I never really had anything to do with the kid.. but the spousal support makes me nervous.