i lost it

I tried to let FH handle the issue with his BS concerning the living arrangements.
but when FH told me yesterday he talked to BS and when BS asked if he had anything he needed to do FH told him that there was nothing(WTF)
so that left FSS the ability to go and just f'k off and not worry about stuff that needs to be done at home.
part of the whole "contract" was that if he wasnt working then he was to do stuff around the house(everyday) not including the chores, to earn his keep, like the gutters need to be cleaned the side of the garage needs to be weed wacked and the list can go on.. I was like you told him what?? that there was NOTHING to do??? FH looked at me and slammed his hands down on the patio table and said gawd damn it..I got up and told him to f'k off ...
after we calmed down a little I told him that he either steps up and make BS accountable make him follow the same plan I make my BS followr or FSS can move out and I dont care if he doesnt have any place to go that is his problem. if he cant be the parent then I will.
and if FSS wont do as agreed upon then FH cant tell him to pack his bags then i WILL
this boy wants to have his cake and eat it too.. sleep at his girlfriends house cuz they are not allowed to sleep over at my house, then leave her house come to mine shower shave shit, then wash his clothes ALL for free?? ut uh. he wants to be on his own then move out
My home is not a laundramat nor a shower facility.
I know FH parents by guilt but I dont and if he wants to live at my house then FHH will pay the price.
is that harsh??
Cru I need two frying pans, and Catch's super sonic thong!

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yes I did

I did read sarah 101 and I kinda talked to FH about it, saying ya know he needs to fail in order to want to do better we can only learn thru our mistakes, I read Raising Children with Love and Understanding! LOL
I do not ask more of FSS then I ask of my own.
My BS has the same contract as FSS.
so why is FH so afraid to make him follow the rules?

"Better a diamond with a flaw than a pebble without one."

here's 2 pans

If dad isn't capable of doing the job then I would write the kd a letter and leave it on his pillow and send it email to make sure he gets it. Make a copy of the letter so he can't lie about what you said. Reinforce the contract and tell him step by step what he needs to do to stay there.
I would make a daily chore chart and include the extras just like he was 10 years old so he doesn't have any excuses. You may find that dad is the problem and not the kd. The kd may not mind doing the honey do list.

but why

I mean geez itz his kid for crying out loud, i have to have 3 children in the house to raise. mine, his and him???
the whole agreement orginally was that if FH did not make the rules stick for his BS then they both were to find thier own place.
gawd
I am going to give FH a chance to chew over our little disagreement and then institute a rebellion (starting with a letter)
Mustang1 I will try to bite my tongue AGAIN let M. have a chance
i promise!!
and FSS did try to tell little missy that he had work to do but she threw a fit so he left.
she is a piece of work, just like his BM.
thanks so much for you comments they are really appreciated.
"Better a diamond with a flaw than a pebble without one."

well I aint good at it

holding my tongue -that is why i am divorced!!! my ex thought I should pretty much agree with him no matter what, well I am a stubborn Irish girl raised in the military!!!
you are so funny...