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Ahhhhh HELP! Sort of long

HolyShootskey's picture

So remember as of last night BM was moving to another state? Well we had FSS today, it is her weekend but she was busy. She left FSS's half brother at my FDH's mother house today. Well we were trying to visit MIL all day so FSS could see her but we couldn't reach her. FDH finally reached her tonight and she couldn't "really talk" bc BM was over visiting :jawdrop:

FDH asks his mom to call back after BM leaves. Now BM told FDH she was leaving bc she needs someone to help her care for FSS's half brother and she has a new baby coming in the next few months and she can't afford childcare. Her plan was to leave FSS here and take his half brother and herself 12 hours away to live with half brother's paternal grandmother. This is important because... *drum roll*

When FDH mom finally called back two hours later she said BM told her that she was no longer moving next weekend bc she had found a church organization to pay her rent and her lack of rent money was the main reason she was leaving. Last night she was moving. She worked 7-3 today and then went to FDH mother's, but somewhere in there she found rent money and can now stay, which was not even the reason she gave FDH for having to leave.

Now FDH is in a panic bc he is afraid she is going to run with FSS. He has an appointment with his lawyer tomorrow. Here is my question: Is her maybe leaving maybe not enough for emergency custody? This is her week.

Other things we have:
- A video she posted on youtube were she had FSS sitting next to her while she discussed being homeless in a few days and begging for money
-FSS has expressed worries every night about his mother "being homeless"
-FSS told his teacher his mom said his was going to live with dad full time bc she had to go down south for eight weeks
-FSS was upset in school last week (now we know bc of his mom situation) and actually ended up with a referal for spitting on a kid and telling them " You are dead to me", which is so not like him.

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HolyShootskey's picture

Only a million times. She always says "no, you are just trying to steal him from me." This is the second time she has planned on leaving him in the past six months. She did leave him for a year before Oct 2010-Oct 2011. If you offer to help she gets offended.

This is just stuff for this week. There is a lot more leading up to all this. She is mentally ill, but she is attractive so she gets away with murder. I don't know if you are familiar with the level of crazy here but she was discharged from the army for personality disorder and spent over two years thinking she was dating Justin Timberlake.

HolyShootskey's picture

Yeah...I think the pregnancy thing really set some stuff off. I am only making small town speculation but from what I gather she met this nice young man, right out of the marines and started putting the moves on him. They were hooking up and she wanted more of a relationship but he didn't. He is seven years younger. So she continued banging him playing it cool and oops she is pregnant. Only instead of being overjoyed he told her he wanted a paternity test before commiting to anything. She was insulted and went downhill from there. The possible baby daddy (I mean possible possible bc she is a slutbag) has recently disappeared off the face of the earth. From what I hear it was bc she was harassing him. She posted on her FB that she would rather her child had no father than consent to a paternity test. Who says that!

HolyShootskey's picture

Yeah we thought about that too. The paramedics had rang FDH a few weeks back saying they were road side with her bc she had huge panic attack, she tried to say she had a seizure, but anyway they needed FDH to come get FSS bc they were taking her to the hospital.

HolyShootskey's picture

I am worried about her telling FDH's mom a different story, one where she is now able to stay, but never told FDH that, like she is trying to throw everyone off track so that she can disappear. FDH had FSS's half bro for six months alone in his care and then one weekend she just showed up a took him from FDH (didn't take FSS) and bailed so it is definitely something she is capable of.

Poor FDH. BM only lives two blocks away. He just went out and drove by just to make sure her car was still there.

HolyShootskey's picture

Oh believe me. FDH's mom and stepdad earned an "uninvited" to our wedding before I even started planning. They kiss BMs asshole so they can see her other kid, FSS half brother, whom FDH is not allowed to see anymore bc that is his punishment from BM for moving on and getting engaged to me.

kathc's picture

Hell, given the situation I'd be tempted to grab the child and file for emergency custody. Why give her the chance to run with him? She's clearly mentally unstable and you have evidence of it.

HolyShootskey's picture

UPDATE: she text FDH this morning and said that FDH's stepfather, whom I hate and I think is trying to bang BM, arranged for one of his family members to help care for half brother so that BM won't have to move after all. Future MIL and Stepdad also lent her some rent money. This is all done out of selfish reasons of course. They don't want half brother to move away. Poor sorry sad sack half brother. The one who beats up FSS and killed the family hamster. I shouldn't say unkind things about a kid, I know, but I am so pissedright now. FDH is still leaving work early to see his lawyer.