So ss11 and sd13 just got back from their Saturday visit with their other mom and as usual come back cranky. Well SD is alwayys furious so I guess she doesn't count. First thing in the door they're telling my GF in an accusing tone of voice) that a broken bowl she threw in the garbage last week is broken all over the yard. GF who rarely has to work at home but does have to this wekend looks up to tell them that she did not put it there but that if they'd like to pick it up they're welcome to do so(of course they don't) the next person to come ilunder fire is whoever bought the box of oranges which SS complains are bruised.why didn't whoever it was look and SEE if they were bruised before buying them- he demands. I'm next to be yelled at-WHEN was the last time I did the dishes? Keep in mind hat these kids don't do chores at all. I told him that I did them yesterday as it happens but that he doesn't get to criticize me for not doing housework.sorry. he says he wasn't. CRITICIZING me just asking. I tried to explain that the tone he used certainly sounded like criticizingbut no apparently I am making this up. Meanwhile SD 13 who has as her stated life goal to be so nasty to me and every one else that I will leave(she has been working on this steadily for a yeadar)yells at us-cant we please STOP! GOSH! And then whispers to her younger brother that I'm just impossible you cant say anything to me. (Shes delighted to have a chance to recruit him to her side since he usually likes me.) I am terrible at confrontations so I just left and locked myself in the bedroom which I know is a win for them. SKs10000 SM 0. I guess I shod have asked ok if he wasn't criticizimg me why was he asking? What could possibly be the reason? The truth is that this is an ongoing issue with him- he also yells at us if dinner isn't ready when he gets home from school. My GF does not think this is a big deal-she just says well hes hungry. Never mind that we do work. In the.past I've told her that one upside to coming out as gay and losing my bio tam is that I have not had any man yelling at me about dinner and I'm not interested in starting that now. Ive also pointed out that she probably doesn't want him totreat his future partner that way. But her approach is really either to placate him or to ignore it. I recognize my own part in this in that I'm terrible at standing up for myself. But telling SS to do something or act differently never turns out well for any one but him. So am I just supposed to be OK with whatever he decides to stay or do? Tonight I think ill stay in here-the poor things can do their criticizing on some one else(although I still feel guiltybecause I know my GF does have to work and it stresses her out when I argue with the kids--and the kids will not let her finish what shes doing either unless some other adult is occupying at least SS who cant amuse himself at all. Her mom os there with her but still. I feel like I'm dammed if I do dammed if I don't)