SD destroying my DH's reputation online
My Dh uncovered a few months ago that there was someone waging a negative campaign against him online with bad reviews about his business. He is a professional who has his own business which is built on his solid reputation and online reviews are a big part of that, so this was a huge hit to him.
We suspected that his ex was behind it. The reviews sounded like they were written by someone with a low IQ and were highly inflammatory, so that would be her. She's never gotten over the divorce, has no job, and claims she can't work due to a long list of fake illnesses like fibromyalgia and chronic fatigue syndrome. But it turned out to be his 14 year old daughter.
Both of them are pissed off that my DH and I are so happy and have been so successful since the divorce. His daughter wants him to have his life ruined for living her mom, not feel like he was freed from prison.
He's had absolutely no contact with either of his kids in over a year now and has given up trying to enforce visitation since they have such venom towards him that we don't want them in our home and around our kids.
But we're trying to get a judge now to enforce visitation so we can get her to delete the negative reviews since that's the easiest way to go about doing it.
Had anyone had experience dealing with a custody situation where things have gotten this negative?
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UM....first things first I'd
UM....first things first I'd go to the website, explain the fraud, and see if they will take it down.
If they won't, I'm sure there are some sort of charges that can be brought against the lying brat, if DH is willing to go there?
What site has the reviews? If
What site has the reviews? If it is something like AngiesList you can dispute them.
The sites include AngiesList
The sites include AngiesList and Yelp along with professional sites for my DH's industry.
He's contacted an attorney and can go through the process to dispute them, but the easiest way to remove them is to get the person who posted them to delete them - especially since we know who that person is.
Also, I wanted to add that DH
Also, I wanted to add that DH got a smartass response back from Yelp essentially saying Well, if it was your kid, then why don't you do something about it you bad parent.
He's been trying to figure
He's been trying to figure out what to say in response.
I'll be honest here, many in our town know the situation and the divorce did hurt his business but he's been rebuilding, and feel bad for BM, so calling SD out for being the evil bitch she is might do more harm than good.
For those that don't know the full story, I'll admit that his marriage ended because he cheated with me. And for some reason, that makes what his daughter is doing okay in some people's minds.
Every PAS expert we've contacted about being an expert witness in the custody case has rejected the case because they don't deal with cheating situations. So we feel like it's the one area where it's perfectly fine for PAS to exist and a lot of people who support BM and SD that his life should be over after he cheated.
I think you need to have a
I think you need to have a lawyer sue the daughter and BM. But, I would not fight for visitation. All that will do is enflame it worse. Just pursue the sites and dispute the reviews. You can do a defamatory suit and sue for damages. That may be enough to get them to take the reviews down.
BM says she's not involved,
BM says she's not involved, so I'm not sure if she could be sued unless we could prove she was involved.
Legally, I would think both of the parents would be responsible for SD, even though she refuses to even speak to her father, but I'm not an attorney.
Several of SD's friends are also involved, so I suppose he could go after their parents as well.
My DH doesn't want to go down the route of taking SD to court over it, only is trying to use it to get a judge to enforce the existing visitation agreement so he can get her phone and laptop and hopefully those passwords.
We can't prove that BM did it
We can't prove that BM did it but DH tried to use in court today that BM isn't properly supervising her daughter. But again they were referred to the mediator for high-conflict cases which never does anything.
He has parental rights but they attend a small Christian private school that their aunt teaches at. Everyone there believes he's the scum of the earth.
Last year when DH went to one of his son's cross-country meets, the other parents asked him to leave and his son eventually went home with one of his friend's moms because he was too upset to run because his father was there.
Even if he gets visitation
Even if he gets visitation that doesn't mean he will be able to get his hands on her phone, laptop, or passwords. How does he see doing that? If he actually gets sd to your home-does he plan to tell her to bring these things so he can remove the reviews or does he think she will do so willingly?
If he does not genuinely want to pursue a relationship with his daughter at this time-I think it is a rather asshole move to pursue visitation for ulterior motives.
Its too late to salvage any
Its too late to salvage any sort of relationship with either of his kids. He's accepted that.
BM won't do anything to punish her for doing this nor try to correct it. Even if SD won't handover the passwords, he wants to show he still is her parent and can correct her on things like this and also at lease document in court how bad of a parent BM is.
What a silly young girl. Has
What a silly young girl. Has she not figured out yet that if her father's lively hood is ruined than so is the girl's CS checks? CS can be modified as Dad's income crumbles. She really didn't think this one out, did she.
I don't see where visitation would get DH what he wants. I doubt the daughter will just readily fess up, click to site and edit the posts. She's already super p*ssed at him and hates you, so why would she delete just because she's at your home? Matter of fact, she might cause such a scene to then make even more trouble for her father.
If you have solid proof the daughter did this, I think best to plead and beg to site owner showing your documented proof that this is your teenage minor daughter with her nose in a snit. You could do the lawyer thing, but if you can't get an immediate 'cease' this girl could do even more damage online.
My SD did this, saying on fb
My SD did this, saying on fb he was abusive. He called to say, I am asking you to remove this. She did.
Cheating to me is no excuse to forget to 'honor thy mother and thy father'. Their marriage is none of SD's business and whoever is using their child as a weapon should be ashamed of themselves.!!
So he can 'ask' her to remove and ask whoever else too. If that doesn't work, get an attorney to send cease and desist letters. I would sue if someone made false complaints against my livelihood, no matter who it was.!!!!!
There was a story in my local
There was a story in my local paper about that nasty little website, Topix, where people go on there and flame others because they think it's anonymous. A suit was brought against them and they had to disclose the IP address of the posts in question. These posters were tracked down & sued for defamation of character. It can be done, nothing is ever really anonymous on the internet, you can be tracked down.
I'm just getting back after a
I'm just getting back after a vacation so I'm sorry I'm late on this.
I feel for your sd. I truly do. My dad cheated on my mom as well. But a healthier alternative/venue for her to unleash her anger would be counseling. My parents got me counseling. To be honest, I probably would have done something similar to your sd if they hadn't. I was that angry. Your dh might want to ask his attorney if he could use this stuff in court to try to convince a judge that sd needs counseling.
Or he should press charges on her. Then the system can deal with her and they'll likely make her participate in counseling, and other programs.
I agree that cheaters should reap what they sow, but not from a teenager, because no teen should have to deal with that much anger.