Just a Vent
So the stepkids are out. They are living with their mother so one less worry. This vent isn't really about them though I think there were some influences. So the vent. My youngest has decided to drop out of school two weeks into senior year. SS dropped out about the same time. However unlike SS my youngest is applying for jobs which brings up the vent. I happen to know a manager at a local store to which my youngest has applied. I made a mention that she had applied to the manager when I saw her. She said great and that she would look out for it. I came home and at dinner we were discussing the store and I mentioned the application and that I had told the manager about it. My DH said "oh managers don't like it when you do that." I found that very interesting as when both of his children were applying for jobs he asked about jobs to managers and that his kids were interested in jobs , and was told to tell them to apply. What is different about my situation. I might add that for years this manager has told me that if any of my children needed a job (step kids included) to tell them to apply and then let her know and she would look for the application. I'm confused. I'm admiring my youngest that she had already applied before I said anything to anyone. She also has a plan. I might add when my SS dropped out school he had no plan and was supported by mom for two years before he got a job that his father found for him as it was with a friend of his dad's. Due to that job he did get a job where he is living with mom.
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It seems to be a common trait
It seems to be a common trait among bio parents, to either ignore or alter facts connected with their childrens' lack of performance in the 'real world'. Those rose coloured glasses blind them to the truth.
Sorry to hear that your daughter has left school before completing her senior year!
Are you talking senior year
Are you talking senior year of high school? why on earth can you support THAT.. a high school diploma is really important.. it's a minimal bar to meet? If there are social issues or something.. I would highly suggest looking into remote learning options for her to work with her school to get a diploma.. so many doors could be closed to her without this degree.
Sorry your SO is being hypocritical.. but I can't see any support of a child not finishing high school.
practice your passive
practice your passive comments.
"thanks honey, I appreciate your wisdom on this"
"thank you for your imput"
"I appreciate your thoughts since you've been through this before. Thanks honey"
"gosh golly gee honey thank you so much for your most awesome and brilliant parenting advice. I know from seeing how well your kids are doing that you and only you have the magical power to raise children as well rounded as yours and I bow to your superior intellect.Without your thoughts my muddled brain could never function and I'd be trapped in a corner trying to figure out where the door is"
ok, maybe not that last one.
He's just jealous
He's just jealous
Maladjusted bio parents hate when you or your kids get ahead in life while they or their kids are flopping and floundering and need every hand out they can get.
I've noticed a good percentage of men (whether it's subconscious or not) are hypocrites. It's called "male privilege". Very openly common in places like India, China, and (covertly) in America.
If him and his son can take the "easy" route they will but the moment you do the exact same thing they want to object.
I'm his mind.....You and your daughter don't deserve the same assists in life. Y'all gotta grind it out! Lol.
I wouldn't be helping any of
I wouldn't be helping any of these kids at all. They want to make adult decisions like DROPPING OUT OF HIGH SCHOOL they can GTF out of my house- Bio and Stepkid. Good Luck with life!
Edit to add- IF by chance they dropped out of college their sr. years because you didn't clairify and based on your profile it could go either way depending on the kids- once again, make grown up choices like quitting school, figure it out.