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Sam2's picture

Before I go into anything else.  Yes the dog is taken care of and will not fall down the stairs anymore.  

 

So my husband's car died yesterday on his way to pick up SD from work.  She's still working on getting residency and the license.  Needless to say I had to go pick him up and then pick her up.   I asked her how work was and she launched into a discussion about how a girl at work seems to dislike her and how she confronted her and told if you have a problem with me tell me don't pull this crap.   Lasted the whole ten minute ride home.  She said that she's afraid this girl will hit her and how her boss is telling her she's a breathe of fresh air and is one of the few people who know what they're doing.  My husband adds that the other girl is probably jealous.  I'm just sitting there thinking and you refused to speak to me let alone acknowledge me for a week because I brought up one question.  Hmm. She did join us for dinner.  We've been talking to her moving forward.  Saying hi, and goodbye , have a good day at work.  Exchanging pleasantries.   I might mention that last Sunday this is the girl she hung out with for the afternoon and early evening, and now this happens.  Based on my interactions with her I wonder if she's snobby when the boss isn't looking.   Apparently at one point yesterday SD was the only one on cash register and there was a line.  She called for help and they didn't respond.  She's hoping the new manager will notice this and do something about it.  Of course husband is like if she hits you that's assult you can call the police at which point she renenges and suddenly the girl isn't going to hit her anymore. 

I do wonder why these kids always claim they do nothing but suddenly kids they've hung out with are out to get them.   Heck the SS blamed my daughter for the reason for why he didn't come upstairs.  Hello, she's not even home two nights and one day a week and you're still downstairs.  My middle son (who has autism and functions about age Dirol is accused of hitting the dog.  I've been home for four days and he barely talks to the dog (yes that dog) .  Oh well.  I need to get back to the elephant in the room.

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tog redux's picture

As the expression goes: if you run into an asshole in the morning, you've run into an asshole. If you run into assholes all day, you're the asshole. 
 

In other word, these kids who have issues with someone every where they go are the ones causing the problem. Fits my SS to a T. 

JRI's picture

Thats a good saying!  My SD58 also has a "challenging" personality.  Every place she ever worked not only was she the best worker ever, but others were out to get her.  Not one of her jobs did she ever leave in a positive manner.  None of them lasted long, either.  Sam2, you are going to be hearing versions of her story for years and years.

Sam2's picture

Yup been hearing it for several years already.  Since SD didn't really live with us for longer than a couple of months.  2-3 at the most and not while she was doing anything other than hanging out in the basement not doing school or having a job I didn't see this side of it.   Now that she's 21 and I heard how she didn't get along with the roommates.  She only gets along with the males at work, the girls are too dramatic.  I've had my run ins with her.  The problem is never her.  She's being a bit more friendlier now since I am ignoring that particular elephant.  No fun when I don't let it bother me.    I do like the saying. 

I think somewhat telling your child that others are jealous of them and that they are not doing anything wrong and only do things right sets them up for this type of behavior.  I too want my bio kids to be liked but let's be realistic you're not going to get along with everyone and not everyone is going to like you.   Constantly hearing they are jealous of you, you were the only one who had any rhythm. The teacher was just out to get you because you were better than her at dancing must set up unrealistic expectations when you encounter people who don't tell you that.

 

JRI's picture

You will be hearing about the work issues forever.  Im sure you already  heard that her teachers weren't fair and favored others.  Eventually, you will hear how mean and abusive her husband(s) are.  Her MIL will be toxic and show favoritism to other grandkids.  Her kids' teachers will not be understanding.  On and on....

Sam2's picture

Still hearing about the work issue and I'm still hearing they're jealous and she's too good for them.  She's one of the few who do their job.  Hello, you called into work one day because you were too hungover to go in and the other one you went to party you were warned not to go to dressed up sexy as hell and said girls attacked you because you were too pretty.  

JRI's picture

Its so tragic that her extreme beauty is putting her in danger.  Lol.