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rocksandrolls's picture

Submitted by rocksandrolls on Sat, 10/27/2018 - 2:20pm

I'll save the dramatic backstory and just ask my immediate question - anyone else out there been asked to attend every one of their step kid's functions with DH & BM? Does anyone do that or feel like that's necessary? Literally the only time my DH takes off from work or does anything "extra" is for a SK sporting event every other weekend. Is this normal? Do you guys get THAT involved - especially with BM at every event? Apparently if DH goes to all of these events with me and my kid, he'll feel less stressed and less torn between families and therefor will be nicer to me. Also of note, his kids are in maybe two sports each and band and nhs and all of it. There are a lot of functions.

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notsurehowtodeal's picture

Submitted by notsurehowtodeal on Sat, 10/27/2018 - 4:54pm

How do your kids feel about being drug along to all these events? I would think they would be bored to tears.

It seems wrong that your DH will be nicer to you only if you attend all of his kids events. He should be nice to you no matter what!

An no, you are under no obligation to attend the event of a skid, unless you want to. Do you guys sit w/BM? How is that for you?

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Submitted by rocksandrolls on Sat, 10/27/2018 - 8:45pm

We do sit with BM and her husband. It's pretty awkward for me. I feel like the little sister who has to be on best behavior. My kid is only two, so he doesn't get bored like an older one would.