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Submitted by ritarose on Fri, 04/08/2011 - 5:15pm

I am new to this site but would love to hear other's views and advice on how to cope with being a stepmother. My husband's children have lived with us for the past 5 years, nothing has gotten better or changed much other than me dreading to go home when I see my SD is home. Her father and I have a 3 year old son and I am 7 months pregnant. SSd is 18 and much to my disappointment has decided to attend college nearby. We live in a small town and she has effectively spread poison about me and her father to everyone she has come in contact with. She is very passive aggressive and portrays herself as a martyr much of the time. She graduates in early June and I am counting the days , hoping that I will soon learn that she will be visiting the BM for summer. My husband seems to be doing everything tokeep her around and I am afraid if she does stick around I will throw in the towel and our children will then become stepchildren.

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Submitted by Done WIth It on Fri, 04/08/2011 - 6:32pm

Wonder how DH will enjoy paying spousal and child support.

THe girls got to go homt to her mother...NOW! If she is spreading gossip about you, she shouldn't be allowed in the home. Her mouth is ugly like her heart.

My husband's girls did the same thing. I tell you, there are good kids and their are lying snot sniffin bratty kids. They don't change...they just keep up their "victim" facade and grow taller. Get her out and get her out fast. If she doesn't go...then you get out. That girl sounds dreadful and destructive. Get that evil monster out ASAP!!

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Submitted by Done WIth It on Fri, 04/08/2011 - 8:16pm

I know I come across strong. But I feel so bad when reading these situations and for years have endured such terrible behavior and so used by sneaky mean kids. I've been married for 18+ years, but there isn't a single week I don't think I should have walked so long ago.

Here's the deal, though....they're mean to their father and they've lied with both those girls disrepectful and hateful with their BM. So it wasn't like I was targeted, but for the past couple of years, I have been because the oldest SD made a huge mistake and thought she could stomp her feet and her dad choose me over her. He didn't. Get this...I wanted to leave, I was done with the ingrates, I can't stand them and I don't want them near me. I don't feel that way towards their children or their spouses (except the con man older SD married....he got called on his lie, also). I'm a fairy god mother to my husbands grandkids, the one he gets to see. But I can't stomach her father, SS, and wish he'd get off my husband's teat and find work out of this town. That's not going to happen.

Anyways, I hate to see the stress with you ladies because it brings up such memories of craphead kids who are still the same...just bigger bodies. Sometimes I think I should pack it up and leave, but my husband begs me not to because he knows his kids aren't interested in his best welfare nor care that much for him. Sad.