Expectations of adult children to ageing parents
I am wondering what others expectations are of children towards ageing parents. My parents are 88 and 86. Of 4 siblings I live the closest and visit them at least twice a week. I sit and have a cup of coffee and a chat and check if they need anything .
My brother who is in his 60s is on dialysis so not able to get around or help much but my sisters who live a little further away visit fortnightly and I know will leave work or whatever they are doing if I call and ask for help.
My husband is 75. He has 5 children to two different BM. The oldest daughter lives nearby. She has not visited DH in 6 mths although she has rung once or twice in this time to tell him she loves him. I am providing pretty much 24 hour care for her father. Her main worry seems to be that he might leave me something in his will and she will miss out. I am quite capable of paying my own way but she doesn't appear to realise that. A thankyou for caring for her father would be appreciated but I will not hold my breath.
I need to get some skingrafts this week and the following week DH needs some medical treatment. My friends think I should put DH into respite but I really do not want to.
So how much do you help out older family members or expect to have to in the future?