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RedWingsFan's picture

Hey y'all!!! I've been gone a while and it's mainly due to the fact that I have no stepdevil issues at the present time (KNOCKING ON WOOD NOW). Of course, my job keeps me pretty damn busy and then there were the holidays and our quick little trip to California as well.

Soooooo, in order to make my post here relevant, stepdevil15 claimed to DH's dad that she's making "A's & B's" in school. DH checked online. She has an "A" in STUDY HALL (OMG they GRADE study hall?????) and a "B" in Choir class, the rest are all D's and F's. So, he emailed her mother (BFC) and asked why her grades are so poor and why she's missed so much school (35 tardies and 5 unexcused absences!). BFC's reply: "Well, this has been a tough transition for her, it's her first year of high school and she's not used to so much homework. The reason for her lateness/absences was because she has had a few colds and we almost lost my grandmother so I pulled her out of school for a while".

Mother of the year material here huh? All she knows how to do is make excuses for this girl's bad behavior. When stepdevil15 got caught having sex at BFC's home when she was 13 yrs old, BFC grounded her for a whopping week and then reduced it to a few days because "stepdevil really needs her friends right now at this difficult time"...

So, DH emailed her back asking what her plan of action was to raise her grades? No response. Doesn't surprise me. She was a high school dropout and likely so will stepdevil if she continues to fail (she's already been held back once so she'll be almost 19 IF she graduates). BFC works at a $12.00/hr department store job and the only way she can make it is to have her family members live with her and help with rent. When DH is done paying child support, if she doesn't have a man to sponge off of, she'll likely fall flat on her face financially!

My DD15 turns 16 in less than 2 weeks and I've already sent her gifts plus have a beautiful bouquet of flowers to be delivered on her birthday. I know DH is going to be sad when stepdevil's 16th rolls around in the Fall, because he purchased a beautiful gold locket necklace on the day she was born with the intention of presenting it to her at her sweet 16 party. Sad, I know. But until she gets out from under dear mommy's bad influence, she won't change or come around. All she does is believe whatever her mother says about us and hates us for it.

Anyhow, it's ffffffing snowing and soooooo super cold here that I'm bitchy. I desperately want to move to California after our trip there (I've always wanted to live there and even more so now) and DH is all for it, but since we're both still having to pay CS, we have a few more years to wait. The cost of living in Cali is so damn high compared to here.

Hope everyone is well and has a great day!

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farting_glitter's picture

ummmm an A in study hall.....holy hell, your DH must be so proud!... }:)

RedWingsFan's picture

Oh and guess what??? He JUST texted me and said "I got one of those automated calls from the school saying that she's failing 3 or more classes" so he's currently checking her grades online now. We shall see soon what the deal is.

farting_glitter's picture

WHY do these kids think they can lie like that?????....ughhhhhhh.....amazing....purely amazing.......but I do envy you on not having to see Stepdevil that much....lucky butt!.... Wink

RedWingsFan's picture

Hey Rising!! I've missed ya! Yeah, he said he felt like the weight of the world was lifted when he had that talk with her a few months back and she basically told him to get out of her life. He said it broke his heart but also he felt relief because he knew to stop chasing and to just leave her be. I do think that I'll take him somewhere special on her birthday so maybe I can distract him from thinking of it so much. At least I have quite a few months to plan something nice.

Shaman29's picture

Red Wings....I'd talk to you but you've been ignoring us.....so........

Oooooohhhhh.....all right! I'm happy to hear from you. I'm sorry SD15 hasn't figured out bad grades are hurting her future. Uberskank used to tell skid that they only counted her senior year. Every year I kept hearing, I'll make it up senior year.

Stay warm! Drink hot booze filled drinks!

RedWingsFan's picture

What do you mean ignoring you???? I see ya!!! I try to keep up Smile

I can't drink any booze for another 3 hours plus I have to stop by the gas station and fill up on the way home so even a bit longer!!! BOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

Shaman29's picture

Oh I know....I just like giving you a hard time. Smile

Hey....once you get home.......get all over the booze. In fact, would you have a few for me??

RedWingsFan's picture

OOOH update from DH!!! These are stepdevil's current grades: C in study hall!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!(A FUCKING C in STUDY HALL?????? How on earth is that even POSSIBLE!?)

C in choir
F in math
F in science
F in history
C in P.E. (again, how is that possible? Oh because she's fucking lazy!)
C in Spanish

Sooooo, all the classes that actually MATTER, she's failing and she's passing the "easy" classes with C's. Way to go, BFC and stepdevil! Looks like she'll be following closely in her mother's footsteps after all and making minimum wage the rest of her life.

farting_glitter's picture

:jawdrop: ...wow....so much for her "A" in study hall.....what does her attendance look like?

Tuff Noogies's picture

RED!!!!!!!! 'sup girl?

sad that nothing's changed with your SD...

we've done a big turn around, got full custody of all three while meth-head whore junkie is off couch-surfing for her next score.

nice to hear from ya!

RedWingsFan's picture

Congrats Tuff!!!! I'd die if DH ever got custody of stepdevil. Naaa, I wouldn't die, I would just move to California and tell him to visit ALONE until she moved out on her own and then he could join me!!!!

Tuff Noogies's picture

yeah big difference from "daddy's the devil and tuff's superbitch, we dont ever ever ever wanna go back there again".... i'm fortunate my skids are actually good kids Smile
mil's still at it, stirring shit. meh.

what's going on lately w/ your DD? when she graduates is she thinking of heading in your direction?

RedWingsFan's picture

Yeah Tuff, that's a BIG change for you all! Happy to hear you're doing well. MIL's are crazy bitches. My FIL is still a loon.

DD turns 16 in a couple of weeks and is doing decent in school. She does want to eventually move in with us after graduation, but that's more than 2 yrs off so a lot can change between now and then. Besides, if DH and I can swing it, we want to move to California as soon as DD graduates and I have no more CS to pay!! Not sure if she'll want to move there but, we'll see!!

Drac0's picture

Yeah they grade study Hall. I wouldn't be surprised if they graded detentions too. Nice to hear (err read) that your life is step-devil stress free.

I would be losing my sh*t if I were your husband. I already threatened my SS with holy hell if his next report card isn't a drastic improvement from the last one. I wanted to punish him WAAAAAAAY earlier but my dear DW wanted to give him a chance to adjust (Gee! Sound familiar?).

SS failed Art last semester. ART!?!? How the heck do you fail Art!?!? Remember Art class? My dog can throw up on a piece of paper, hand it in, and get a passing grade!

RedWingsFan's picture

I can't believe they grade study hall. I mean, HOW exactly does that grading work? "Oh, Johnny showed UP, so he gets an A"????

He can't really lose his shit, since BFC has primary custody. Not much he can really do you know? It's like beating on a door when no one is home and actually expecting someone to open it for you. His words fall on deaf ears with the both of them. All he can do is express his interest and concern and really, that's it.

Yeah, failing Art is like failing PE - it's just about effort at that point.