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Has anyone used this or another form of communication for Dh and BM??? Thoughts? I have to find a way to stop her endless texts about things other than the kids!
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Has anyone used this or another form of communication for Dh and BM??? Thoughts? I have to find a way to stop her endless texts about things other than the kids!
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SO blocked her from texting
SO blocked her from texting for this reason. He says calls only. She can call leave a message and if he deems it neccessary, then he will call her back. Has cut down on a lot of communication issues. Only bad part, we can't document what she says, but like I said he's not getting tons of texts everyday. BMs someitmes need to learn boundries.
My opinion is that every
My opinion is that every divorced/separated couple with kids should use this as the sole means for communication outside of an emergency. It is a great tool for the simple fact that the schedule is there, the calendar of activities/days off from school/switches is there, and most of all the communication piece saves all of the messages and logs if they are received and when.
Even if you are cordial and get along (but then why would you be divorced if it's so easy now?) I think it's a great tool because you log on when you need something or just at the end of the day to make sure you didn't miss something. Texts are intrusive and I love that I don't have to wonder if DH is texting BM and what about (I know it's not always my business but when another woman is hogging your husbands time it's difficult to ignore)
Did your DH suggest it to his
Did your DH suggest it to his ex? How was she about it? Can you also log on or just DH?
It was actually court ordered
It was actually court ordered because their divorce was "high conflict"
I can log on as well but I only do once a month to get the calendar so I can plan family things around sports and plan grocery shopping around hot lunches etc. I don't read the messages or anything, I use to care but it's much easier when she doesn't exist.
Yuck I hate the thought of
Yuck I hate the thought of her calling all the time too! She just can't seem to get it through her head he has moved on. Texts things like did you see the new jordans that came out? Wtf? Or are you still crabby today after he put her in her place. I am starting to obsess about it because I hate another woman texting my man about things other than necessary about kids. Of course she blames me when he put his foot down and says I am so insecure.
I think it's great. Dh used
I think it's great. Dh used it. It's great because it also has a section for the kids and you can save copies of all your documentation on it.
Swamp and DH were CO'd to use
Swamp and DH were CO'd to use OFW and they can not call one another unless it is an emergency medical situation. It has been wonderful! No longer hearing Swamps nasty, nasally, whiney, bitchy voice has been wonderful. She would leave psycho bitch voicemails and they were always directed at me.
OFW is great because they can email each other and if she she gets nasty, we save them for documentation. It has a calendar for skid activities and an expense log if they are suppose to split fees. It does cost about $100.00 each a year, but it's worth the cost. If a GAL is involved in the case, they can monitor the emails too.
Your problem is not BM it is
Your problem is not BM it is your DH. If he blocked texts, or refused to respond these would stop.
Yes you are right, thus the
Yes you are right, thus the epic blow out fight we had about boundaries. She is now blocked from texts.
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My boyfriend is on it everyday so I don't think it necessarily reduces the frequency of communication.