Just got back from our TG trip to Austria & Germany. We had a great time. The Alps were beautiful, we enjoyed the week with our friends (3 other couples) and we had a nice visit with the kid. Every time we spend time with him I am more impressed by the man that he is.
He is struggling with a few things but... over all he really is a man of character who does well personally and professionally. His mom and I I are proud of him. We also get a bonus visit with him week after next. He was notified he is going on TDY for training in Colorado from the 9th -18th so we will visit SS, our niece and her DF there the weekend of the 14th.
He had to work the Wed before TG and did not plan well on how to join us in Austria. After his usual 03:30 AM gym session then a full day of work he ended up deciding not to risk a 6 hour drive through the Alps and did not leave until Thurs AM and much later than he originally planned so rather than arriving at the planned 10AM he arrived at 14:00. That was our down day while on this trip so he did not miss anything. We had a great TG dinner with a 6 course food and wine paring at one of the two nice restaurants in the village we were in (Schladming). On Fri we took the train to Salzburg and toured the city including the Mozart birth house museum, the Christmas market and capped it off with the Sound of Music tour. Not something I really expected to enjoy but it turned out to be great. Really enjoyable.
We drove to Munich on Saturday and toured the City. SS left after dinner Sat evening to drive back to his apartment in Kaiserslautern. Our flight bake to the US was delayed on Sunday. We were supposed to leave at 11AM and did not end up leaving until 17:00
Which gets me to the title of this blog. On the plane I watched several movies including THE AFTERMATH. The story is about a British woman who joins her husband in Hamburg after the end of WWII where he is the Sr. British Officer assigned as the Military Governor of Hamburg responsible for the clean up and rebuilding of the city.
Long story short. The Brits live in the home of an affluent German widower and his troubled teen daughter (Wife was killed in the fire bombing of Hamburg during the war). The main character and her husband are struggling to reconnect after long separation during the war and the loss of their 10yo son who was killed in the blitz on London.
Predictably the wife and the German widower hook up in a passionate affair, drama, drama, drama, ........
I found myself having a visceral reaction to her betrayal of her husband and her choices. I recognized the trauma all of these people suffered and they all needed each other to recover from that trauma but.... They all just pissed me off. She was an adulterous whore, the German widower played on her vulnerabilities, the British Col. chose his duty over his marriage and his wife.
On some level they all pissed me off. But... the ending calmed me a bit.
What is it with people justifying characterless behavior? All of these people had a choice and they were all deficient in character.
It is not Rocket Science. If a person is married, keep it at home for F sake. If a married person wants to bump uglies with someone not their spouse, get a divorce. Respect the ring people. If someone is wearing a wedding ring, leave them alone. I don't give a flying F about the why. We just keep it in our pants other than with our spouse. If all in the situation are single... go for it and have fun.
Sure, appreciate beauty and attractive people. After all we are all human. Ii appreciate attractive people. But if either they or we are pair bonded, appreciate but let it end there. Do not betray either their or our own commitments.