MY SOAP IS NOT COMMUNAL

But apparently, it’s supposed to be.

So last night, after a long day at work and then a hard workout at the gym, I got home and was ready to relax. I was mildly annoyed to find our one bathroom taken up by FDH showering and then skid1 showering. Not a huge deal except that I hate to go to bed sweaty, and by the time they were both done it was way late and the hot water was finito.

Again, annoying, but not a huge deal. When they were both done and the bathroom was a steamy, wet mess, I went in there to wash up a bit in lieu of a full shower. Lo and behold, my bar of soap was sitting on the edge of the sink, instead of in my closed soap container in the shower on the shelf with the rest of my shower stuff. A perfectly good container of handsoap sat right next to it. It was dry too, so it apparently had been used during the day when only the skids were home. As skid2 is known to be a filthy boy, resistant to cleaning himself in any way, shape or form, I knew it wasn’t him. That left skid2, who has no respect whatsoever for the fact that some things belong to other people and not him.

WTF? Perplexing stuff here. Why would someone apparently needing handsoap ignore the container of it sitting on the counter and instead walk across the bathroom to the shower, open the shower curtain, lean into the shower to get to the shelf, open the container with my BAR of soap and then return to the sink? The handsoap was a much better choice. Not to mention – EWWWWW! Why would ANYONE want to use someone else’s freaking BAR of soap? I went back to bed and brought it up to FDH, more in the sense of “I don’t get his thought process here – why would he do that?”

And his defenses immediately went up. I didn’t attack the kid, say anything bad about him other than that it was really annoying to have to throw my last bar of soap away, and I didn’t understand why the kid would even do that.

FDH said “Is this a recurring problem?” I said “nope, first time.” And he then proceeded to act like I was ridiculous for even getting annoyed, or finding it odd, because apparently one can only find something annoying if it has happened many times. What-fucking-ever, FDH. He told me to rinse it off and forget about it, but that fucking bar went straight into the trash can. MY BARS OF SOAP ARE NOT COMMUNAL.

For this, I get the cold shoulder for the rest of the night and this morning. This is really off behavior for him, as we are normally a very lovey, snuggle all night kind of couple. I love my guy, and he doesn’t exactly see his kid through rose colored glasses, but lately his hackles have been up whenever I say anything. I’m sure I play a part in this because I just plain old don’t like the kid, for many reasons, and it is difficult for me to be around him so when he is here, FDH and I don’t see much of each other. FDH plays a part in this though too – he likes to vent to me about all of the many wrongs skid1 has done, whenever he needs someone to verbally dump on, and that shit isn’t helping me be able to tolerate him any better.

So I will no longer be the toilet for FDH’s verbal diarrhea when it comes to his son. He can bottle all that shit up because he’s not venting to me any more, not when I can’t even express the mildest hint of displeasure without getting attitude popped at me.

And my soap will travel with me, because it’s not fucking communal.

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Shave your va jay jay with

Shave your va jay jay with his razor and then tell him to rinse it off and forget about it.

ugh. I feel the same way but

ugh. I feel the same way but we ONLY use pump soap for the bathroom sinks and ss12 and DH use the bar soap in the shower. I use a washcloth and body wash in the shower. I fold my washcloth a certain way so I know if SS12 touched it. Having a 12 year old boy touch something I've slathered on my body is just disgusting.

Skids just plain like to use

Skids just plain like to use what they know is yours. My skids do it too...and they are both boys! I keep separate shampoo and body wash and loofah in the bedroom and carry it to the shower with me because if I leave it in there, it'll either be gone quickly, opened with water in it or have questionable slime, smell, grease or hair on it.

Sometimes, I'll get "decoy" bath products that are super cheap but look nice and girly and expensive and leave them in the shower partially used so that it looks like I have stuff that is mine in there, but really I don't care if they use it. Then they can think they are using my shit for real and don't go searching for my real stuff to use. Sally Beauty supply is good for that stuff because nobody in my house recognizes the brands but they come in pretty bottles so they must be my stuff, right?

yup, I'm reverting to my

yup, I'm reverting to my college dorm years and buying an effing shower caddy tonight, so my bath products will be out of reach of skid and his grimy hands.

so annoying that as an adult who works my ass off to pay for that house, I have to shower caddy my shit around.

LOL decoy bath products. WTF

LOL decoy bath products.

WTF is WRONG with these teenage boys? Half of them won't take a shower, or in the case of Draco's SS, don't know how. The other half want our flowery products, which are usually for very specific purposes. Since when does a 13 yo boy have need of lavender rejuvenating bodywash?

Just get a bunch of Summers

Just get a bunch of Summers Eve intimate wash.

I would LOVE to switch to

I would LOVE to switch to shower gel, but I have a skin condition and this particular type of bar is the only soap that doesn't make my skin worse.

I hate sharing a bathroom. I'm seriously considering getting a small apartment on my own until that kid is out of the house.

I've also been known to

I've also been known to refill my old shampoo and conditioner bottles with cheapo Suave or White Rain and the skids happily use it right up because they think it's my good stuff.

that is HILARIOUS!

Gross and that would bother

Gross and that would bother me too.

I had an issue with YSD and MSD using MY bath towel. So gross! Like hello I dried my va jay jay on that towel that you probably just dried your face with.

Oh and YSD was overheard telling BM "And she was complaining about me using her towel and wants me to use my own!"

YES. YES I DO. I want you to grab one of the 15 other towels that are cleaned and soft out of the closet 2 feet from the bathroom and use your own.

I have the same problem, but

I have the same problem, but for a different reason. I had a corneal transplant and I wore a rigid contact lens in my other eye until my cornea changed shape and it didn't fit. So in order to avoid eye infections and the like, I DO NOT want ANYONE so much as TOUCHING my towel.

Hell no. I don't even like

Hell no. I don't even like for my shampoo to be used.

My brush! Kids have their own

My brush! Kids have their own bathroom upstairs. And skid has her own brush that NOBODY is allowed to even look at because it was SO expensive. But my brush is the one that always disappears and miraculously is always found in skids room! I said my peace, said it loudly again and still happening. I went and bought 3 brushes at the dollar store and left them all over for easy access. Guess what, still happening! What worked? I flipped my ever loving shit held my brush up and said 'keep your hands off my shit!' So far it has worked, for my brush at least

Man...Glad I dont have

Man...Glad I dont have SDs.

FDH wont even use my shower gel or hair stuff. Apparently smelling like night blooming orchids and black amber is not his thing.

I want to buy some Summers

I want to buy some Summers Eve or Vagisil wash and leave it in there just to see if the boys will use it. I bet they would just because it's mine.

DOOOO ETTTTTTT!!! "You know

DOOOO ETTTTTTT!!!

"You know only Douches use other people's body wash...Speaking of which...why do you smell like Summers Eve?"

I have had that exact conversation with with an EX roommate. HE decided to use my summers eve body wash, and I literally said infront of his girlfriend "Dude, you smell like a Douche bag. Did you use my soap again?"

THAT was hilarious.

OMG this just cracked me up!

Nair in a shampoo bottle.

girl just use a shower caddy.

girl just use a shower caddy. it works wonders. i even keep my brush in there. and i hang my towel in our bedroom too on a hook over the closet door. like others have said, i dried my cooch off w/ that towel. ew. and i dont want to dry my face with something that might have dried off a skid's balls. no thank you.

i think dh finally got it last week. every time i pull out a washcloth and fold/lay it by the sink to dry overnight, the next day it ends up wadded up in the shower by one of the skids. (which in and of itself is gross to me). one time it was for noxema. another was to clean up haircolor off my neckline and ears. dont skids smell that shit? ugh. and i point it out EVERY time to dh and advise him that shit doesnt go over well with me.

well, this last time was after a particularly fun adult time w/ dh that i used a washcloth to clean up. the next day sure as shit it was wadded up in the shower. when dh came in the bathroom, i pointed it out and said "i'm tired of skids using my shit. it's sad i cant lay a damn used washcloth to dry cuz they'll grab it. by the way, do you know what that one was used for?" *cue the deer-in-headlights look* then dh says "HELL no. that shit's gonna stop right now."

Ya know, this is just bull

Ya know, this is just bull that you have to resort to this. The day I have to drag my shit back and forth to and from the bathroom in my own house....well, just no. But then, my SD was not a little asshole.

However, she did once use my cleaning rag (hanging on the vanity door to dry) to wash her face. But, she's kind of dense. I mean, it looked like a cleaning rag and not at all like a washcloth.

FLEA shampoo. I mean

FLEA shampoo. I mean ANTI-flea shampoo.

Fresh clean scent, lusterous coat and flealess for up to 4 weeks!!!

Then if she asks if you changed brands, you can say, "Why YES, I'm using DOG/CAT shampoo--it's better than WEN!!"

Sweet! I have dog shampoo

Sweet! I have dog shampoo that’s a little old and has separated a bit. I think I’ll shake that shit up and pour it into a Paul Mitchell bottle this week. With SS17 coming over from BM’s this weekend, I’d actually be doing a public service considering his overall lack of hygiene and the fact that he's coming from BM's disgusting ass house.

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