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OK I have a problem and need to help to keep this 'girl' out of my space!

purpledaisies's picture

This girl i work with has a NASTY habit of bullying EVERYONE that works there. For some reason the owner won't say anything to her.

So here is the deal we are allowed to take our chargers for our phones so we can keep our phones charged as we work in a bar and need to have access to them for safety. I brought my charger and when I couldn't find it I thought I lost it at home. I never thought someone would steal it never crossed my mind. I even said something to someone else that I work with about it and we thought the same thing.

So to my surprise a couple of weeks ago I saw it plugged in to MY plug in at MY station so I thought so that is where I left it as I don;pt house it every night and hardly ever as I make sure that my phone is charged for the most part. So I put it in my purse and took it home now when I worked last week I only got it out one time on thursday and I left it again. So on fri I noticed it and went to put it in my purse.

that is when the 'girl' came in and tried to tell me I stole that charger form her. She said that another girl borrowed her charger and put it there on tues. Now I KNEW at that point she was lying b/c I didn't use my charger on tues and that is not the charger she was talking about. she went off on me for about 30 mins. Finally I said i am sorry you feel that I took your charger but I did not.
She was nasty and vile the whole time she was screaming at me that I stole her charger. She tried to bully me into giving it to her by saying that she was being nice and she could just take it back. and a lot of other nasty crap like that including trying to make me feel guilty by saying she NEEDS to talk to her husband and I didn't need to.

I just picked up the charger and hid it for her and took it home. Then last night another girl came up to me and said that she knew for a fact that she stole that charger from there to begin with but she didn't know who it belonged to til she started in on me.

So in other words when I was 'missing' my charger she stole it from me and i took it back without realizing it. Then she had the BALLS to accuse me of stealing from her and made up the story about another using it tues night thinking that I used the charger tues night. However another girl told me that the girl that was supposed have used that charger really used hers so she never got that other girls charger out which is mine. But at the same time i had the charger that night so it was impossible that the other girl used that charger.

now my question is what do i do to keep this girl from me and my stuff?? How do yu handle a person like that??? I have to work with her...

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stepfamilyfriend's picture

No advice here, because I would not know how to deal with it and still be able to work together. But I feel for you. Do the bosses know and not care?

Doubletakex3's picture

I think I'd get a paint marker and put my initials on everything that's personally mine. I'd also clue HR in on this crazy person and her inappropriate response to conflict.

Geesh. Crazies everywhere.

purpledaisies's picture

We don't have an HR dept. It is a SMALL bar and the owner won't say anything to her.

i thought about doing that but she can just use nail polish remover so i thought I would scratch my name in them. lol

oneoffour's picture

Buy some fluro duct tape and duct tape EVERYTHING. I bought some pink for my DH as a joke but it has come in very handy.
If she makes some snide bitchy remark just smile and say "Look, by doing this no one can mistake my stuff for theirs. It may be a good idea if we ALL do it. What do you think?" Try and tell the other girls first so they can all agree with you. Then you all choose a colour each and she can't do very much if you all have fluro pink/yellow/orange flaming duct tape over your personal possessions can she?

And make sure you put the tape around the wire as well. It will be a LOT harder to get it off.

Maybe you could key her car or something.... just saying...

twopines's picture

Whisper in her ear, "you touch my stuff again, I'll taser parts of you that you'll dearly miss."