OMG BB called me!!!! (kinda long)
I can't belive it actually I almost fainted. I willstart at the begining we get SD6 everyother week in the summer so DH picked her up on Friday and everything was fine until bedtime on Sunday she started crying (I have noticed this getting more frequent when she has to go to bed or do something she doesn't want to do) I let her dad deal with her I was getting BS6 in bed. So he lets her call her Mom because that is what she says is wrong she misses her mom, so no big deal call her and all is better (hey I am a bio mom to so I understand homesick) Anywya she calms down and goes off to bed. Monday is my day off so we ran some errands and went to luch (just me ant the 3 kids) get home around 2 and Isee BB has called I fiure she is calling to check on SD6 so I tell SD6 the she had called and asked her if she wanted to call her back and she said yes. So I dial the number and hand her the phone she talks for a couple of min and I hear her say Bye and she brings me the phone and say Mommy wants to talk to you. What me we have never had a conversation did hell freeze over and someone forgot to tell me. So she asks if DH and I had a chance to look over the calender she sent and if so if it was ok or did we need to make any changes. OMG if Dh and I looked over it did she just include me in this decision. I tell her it all looks good to me and DH. She was like ok I said by the way since I have you on the phone since school would be starting soon and I would be school shoping for the boys if it would be ok if we picked somethings up for SD6 we had been looking at backpacks and lunch boxes over the weekend. She said that would be fine and she didn't have a problem with that. (Normally she buys everything for her house and we buy everything for ours. But I figure school supplies kinda go both ways so why not buy her somethings also my boys dad buys them some things) So I am not sure where this will go and belive me my guard is way up now. but I fugure at least it is communication more than we have had in a long time. A friend of mine suggested maybe she is waking up and relizing I am not the enemy.
But on the other hand BB called DH parents last week to babysit WTF they hate one another why would she call them. The bad part is DH parents never mentioned it to us SD6 told us over the weekend that they picked her up at Mommys house and took her back to Mommys house later. WTF is up with that??? Why wouldn't they have mentioned it to us? I am begining the think I am not liked by his parents they don't call very often or come around. When DH moved in with me he went from being 2 miles awoay from them to being about 30 min away. Also they kept SD6 last summer before DH moved, while he worked and now this year they don't because he works out of town a lot and I work at 5 am and I am not driving 30 min when I have a sitter that comes to my house for mine she can just keep all 3. They can see her anytime all they have to do is call. Sorry this is so long I just had to get it all out.
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I hope some day our BM will
I hope some day our BM will call me or at least talk to me and realize I'm not a threat to her.
~ Katrina
I've been waiting 2 years
and BM has NEVER spoken one word to me. She will talk about me to anyone that wants to listen, but has yet to utter one word my direction. If I go to the girls basketball game and she is there, she will get up and leave and we take them home. Our last dance recital she did a 360...smiling and laughing, dressed to the 9's and so far up his butt and his family's butt that she couldn't get out. She walked past me and smiled her gloating smile as if to say "Gotcha."
I find her ignorant. These kids are what this is all about. Their divorce is over and he obviously didn't want her or he wouldn't have gone through with it. I've never seen this as about she or I and I think adults CAN get along with one another. At least they should try for the sake of the children, to be civil and somewhat cordial. It's like with any relationship~ it takes two!
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Hang in there
it has take a year fot her to even acknowledge me. I actually made the first move by answering DH cell phone when she was calling and then calling her for SD6 when DH wans't home and she became home sick. It is slow and I still don't think she likes dealing with me but I think she is learning that I am not going anywhere and with DH job she is going to have to speak to me weather she likes it or not. I just make sure I am super nice to her and of course am always smiling when I drop off or pick up SD. I don't let her know she gets to me. So in return she is the one who always looks so miserable.
Live for today,you may not have a tommorow
well keep up your guard
but also think of it as your friend said.. Maybe just maybe she is getting it. OR maybe she has a boyfriend or something who has an ex or something and she realises what you were going thru and has decided that she does not want to put in that position anymore.
I posted before, but my BM called and stuff all the time, and wanted more money for this and that and would shop for SD all the time and were talking all the expensive crap all the time at least on average $200 a month in new clothes because she wanted them. Whatever, so I finally told her a couple of months ago that she needed to ask before she spends money and see what we are willing to help out with and stuff. I said try to put yourself in my shoes all the calls and the letters / notes all the time. Well since then I think she has called 3 or 4 times. I can only hope maybe she really thought about putting herself in my shoes.. Either that or she is going to take us to court for what she thinks is going to be a lot of child support. HA HA.. Won't happen. Anyways.. Keep up your guard but try to think positive too..
Happy
" make sure you tell the people you love most EVERYDAY.. Its important not only for them to know but for you to tell.. Life is to short to be miserable..