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Do you know what I am sick of????

Persephone's picture

I am sick of ‘precious' that’s what DH and I call SD-15, telling the other 3 that she is sick of hearing all about their life. The other 3 talk about dance, gymnastics, friends, theatre group you name it… Darfur and other world events. She does not talk and is in therapy for this, yet every time the other kids that are comfortable with talking she tries to shut them down. She will Huff and Puff and say dooo weee really need to hear about this??? She is a downer in our family and I an am sick and tired of her trying to take us all down with her!!! If I were not sympathetic to her ‘problem’ I would love to tell her to shut up and let the other ‘healthy' ? kids be.

Any thoughts on how I should handle this Debbie Downer???

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loonybonusmom's picture

sounds like we are in simular boats, i also have a bonus son 16 who's idea of a fun weekend is 8 hours a day on the various gaming systems he is given and three other younger children who although younger have more spunk, and motivation to be active and speak more than three words a day. my ss is not in therapy but i do wonder these days if it is the kids who need the therapy of their bm..ie?good parenting methods. i also understand the frustration that goes along with treatment given to the "precious" as though some how by giving these kids siblings and an active family life we have deprived them of the love they had before siblings. as i have mentioned in previous blogs..these bm's seem to raise their kids in a fanatasy bubble with no basis in reality and as far as i can see they are hurting their kids more than anyone else..or maybe they want to keep these kids at home into their 30's because they won't make it in the real world. my experiences recently however is that god forbid you raise any of these issues with bm or skid because you become the wicked stepmother who was chosen by her husband and not the child. basically...grin and bear the visits, and wait for age 18 or tell them to shut up and face the wrath of bm. in my hardest times i remember the words of my family doctor...if you know your home and children are happy, don't base all family decisions on ss, there is no guilt in making sure your own children are happy, and healthy humans.

OldTimer's picture

it's because she is insecure and may even be jealous. Can I ask you, do you spend any one-on-one time with her? Does she have any activities of her own? I would encourage her to interact more with the kids and vs versa... if that isn't all ready being done. That might help a little. This is usually a self esteem issue.

Wink StepMom

Man has the intelligence to change his life,
Sometimes, he just fails to use it...

divorce1013's picture

first off all she lost her kids as she wasa cheating filed for a divorce then they both had joint custody. Well then she got a wild hair up her ass and moved with the kids without asking anyone across the country. She lost them to the ex. Now probably 8 years later she is back and on a mission. I feel left outsince she has recently moved back. I dont like her personality and totally hate cheaters as that ws what my ex did. i have no respect for her so tha tmakes it hard. im not sure what to do

BIOMOM's picture

........................I'm lost?!!!!

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OldTimer's picture

Wink StepMom

Man has the intelligence to change his life,
Sometimes, he just fails to use it...