Sorry I'm such s blog hog but now I'm posting as a bm
So last night I was talking to my sister and dh was joining in the conversion. My sister's middle child is starting kindergarten this year. And I was reminiscing about when dd (now 11) started kindergarten, she cried ever single morning when I walked her to school. Keep in mind she's always been high anxiety. She literally would cry every morning having a hysterical break down for about half the year. One of the teacher aids hated me by the end of the year. Every morning when I was saying goodbye I'd hug her, tell her have a good day, tell her she was going to have fun with her friends, that she had to go, that is see her after work. Later on in the year she began only wearing 2 or 3 outfits, that all looked the same. If I made her wear something else, she would have a complete break down screaming and crying, hyperventilating. It was too much. I never kept her home from school, but I'd walk her into the building. But I food continue to let her wear the 3 outfits that all looked the same.
Dh tells me and my sister I coddled her that I should have just dropped get off and let her cry. But it wasn't just crying, it was totally breaking down. His opinion is that she just needs to get over it. But that isn't the way anxiety and OCD work. You don't just get over it. Am I wrong? Should I have just left her? Should i have forced her to change? Did I coddle?
It's not that we had an argument, I just don't think I coddled, I just want to know what unbiased people think.