Dh has found to a psychologist to get sd evaluated.

It will be a few months before she can get seen, due to space. If there is an opening before that they will contact us.

Now we just have to keep it a secret and not let it slip. We have it written in code on our dry erase calendar. It says Dr. Pepper run lol dh made that up.

So last night I was talking to my sister and dh was joining in the conversion. My sister's middle child is starting kindergarten this year. And I was reminiscing about when dd (now 11) started kindergarten, she cried ever single morning when I walked her to school. Keep in mind she's always been high anxiety. She literally would cry every morning having a hysterical break down for about half the year. One of the teacher aids hated me by the end of the year.

I took several pictures of dd with her friends at her birthday party. There were pictures of them playing, while they were singing happy birthday, while she was opening cards/presents.

What did you promise yourself when you first became a step mom, what about now? Had it changed? Is it the same? What's happened in between them and now? Why did you promise this? What influenced your promise to yourself?

My promise to myself when I first got married was to think of my kids first and foremost. And not allow BM to dictate my life. My promises are the same. What has happened since then? Many heated discussions with dh to set boundaries to keep BM out of my life. SD became a focus of tension due to dh not parenting her.