I have met with SS9's teacher 5x's this school year already and they have only been in school since 12 Aug.

So yesterday's meeting went a little like this

SS isn't doing his work and is ALREADY in danger of failing
He has failed to turn in so many assignments that she has started giving him 59% instead of 0's because he would never recover and pass the grade
He wrote her an IOU on Monday because he didn't feel like doing any work
He is still throwing tantrums on the ground screaming when he doesn't get his way
When that doesn't work to get what he wants he saying he is stupid and hates himself---All this is extreme manipulation on his part and I have told his teacher that. She finally agreed with me yesterday.
He is still behaving wildly on the school bus
He is still making constant random noises all day
and on and on and on

The PTC consisted of me, SO, SS, teacher and the behavior specialist. At one point SO says "Where were is his mom. She doesn't care about these kids" At which point the behavior specialist said "That is not helping anything" LOLOLOL put him in his place. BM TOTALLY sucks as a mom, but bringing it up EVERY TIME we have one of these PTC's about SS's behavior CHANGES NOTHING.

SS's teacher gives us three test that he got 30's and 40's on. She sent them home to BM for SS to re-do and for BM to sign. Well, BM signed them but SS never re-accomplished the work. SS's teacher sent those failed test home with us as well as all the work he refused to do this week. As we wrap up the meeting and SD's teacher pokes her head in the class to ask that we stop by her room before we leave.

SD is also in danger of failing ALREADY. She has LOTS of zeros for work not turned in and is failing test because she isn't studying at all, never. But unlike SS's teacher, SD's teacher is not giving her 59% on missing work. She is getting zeros...As she should.

It's crazy. We had open house on 2 Sept. SD's teacher told us then she had missing assignments. Which was relayed to SD and she was told to get with her teacher and get the work done. Also, she has this binder she is supposed to be keeping up to date with all her graded papers and an index for each subject and under each subject should be the assignment name and the grade she got. During open house she only had one assignment in the binder and no indexes. Teacher said she spoke with SD three times about doing this index.

Well guess what, index still only has that same one assignment in it. At this point, I am seriously pissed. I have talked to SD about the missing assignments EVERY weekend and that damn index since the open house and she assured us she was getting it done. SD is like BM, she's a shitty liar but she won't stop doing it. Teacher says SD's biggest problem is she isn't organized. She makes her open her backpack and its over flowing with crap. Found two test that should have been turned in and books that weren't supposed to leave the class room.

So, we get home and tell SD to get her backpack and get organized, to include the binder with the graded assignments and index. 10 minutes later, I yell for her again. She comes out with two books and a folder. I make her go get her backpack so she can pull all the crap out and organize. She does that and tells me she's done. I say "Are you sure", Yes she's sure. Ok, where is that binder with the index and graded assignments. CRICKETS....She had it hid in her room. All the graded assignments were just shoved back in the bag but more neatly. So I make her organize the damn binder.

I had SS start fixing his graded assignments. For all three he did the exact same thing, EACH TIME. He just started guessing. I said, "No, read the chapter and answer the questions. You can't just guess. That's why you failed the first time." He opened the book, didn't read and started guessing again. I asked him to show me in the book where he got the answer to question 3. Of course he couldn't. I make him do it again. And he finally did what he was supposed to and showed me the answer for each question in the book......Again, he did this same scenario three times. Then I tell him to pull out the work he didn't do all week. Guess what, he didn't bring it home. We stood right next to him in the class and he said it was in his backpack.

I just talked to SS's teacher on Friday, we make SS and SD sit down and do all the work they had with them Friday night. SO lectured for at least 2hrs. They are grounded from screens in our house and supposedly BM's house too. I'm really at a lost as to what to do. Especially with SS.