Uggs and ugh!
Ok so for those of you who know my story I'm the SM that has a 13SD that has left our house for the past 10 months with few to little calls to her Dad. Since she left her stuff is all still at our place where she lived 1/2 time with us over the past 4 years w our 3 other kids.
She has left all of her things and after about 6 months we decided to allow one of the other kids yo move into her room (her Bio brother) who was sharing a room with my boys. We carefully put most of her things in nice new colorful snap tipper wear storage bins. Asking when she wanted it or needed it
It has now been 10 months and she is still refusing to go to counseling with my DH, tells her BM she's not ready to work things out.
as silly as it sounds I bought her brand new gray Ugg boots about 2 years ago, that she wore about twice....they are now part of the Tupperware's of unclaimed stuff she seems to have no interest in getting from us. So I broke down, I paid $165 for the Uggs when I bought them for her and she's 13 now so my guess is that in the 10 months she's been gone she isn't even the same size shoe, she is like a foot taller now than when she left our house. I am the same size as the Uggs, and my pair that I've had for about 4 years, are completely shot.
Is it uncool to take the Uggs back & wear them? We never see her unfortunately and if we did I doubt she would even remember the boots. Like I said she wore them maybe even once in my recollection.
I kind of think that we are pretty nice to keep all of her stuff when she has stated that she isn't coming back to live with us anytime soon. She is a pretty nasty kid, doesn't ever call her Dad, just pretty much when she needs something. When we bought her nice things she would typically not even ever where them because she preferred Crocs and sweatpants.
...feel pretty silly about it but $165 for shoes that will never be worn is not cool to me...I'm going to have yo go replace mine then watch hers sit there and collect dust.
I should add she has a history of asking for stuff, us then buying her stuff that she wouldn't take the tags off of...it was very odd behavior and it has probably cost us thousands from age 8 to when she left us.
I do feel animosity towards her that she left, my DH would buy her the exact bar of soap brand she liked and there are still stacks of the soap under her sink, which we now tell the boys to use. I only recently started using the soaps as it is starting to feel a bit ridiculous, especially when she has almost shut out her Dad & I completely. Before she became a teen we had a pretty good relationship I thought. When her Dad and I got married was when her BM started needing her so making her feel as though she couldn't live a day without her BM.
Those Uggs are looking good to me, it's freezing this winter!!! Am I a horrible person?! Probably, guess they should just sit their unclaimed along with her $250 Roxy wetsuit, etc.