Our vacation is in 2 weeks and BM still doesn't know if SS can go
My father in law has graciously gifted us a trip to Disneyworld with him in 2 weeks. We have known about this and have been planning for the past year. FIL has also paid for tickets for SS. We live in a different province than SS, but DH has told BM about this trip and to make sure SS has his passport in time. BM has sole custody so only she can do the passport. While SS was with us, we took him to get his passport pictures taken and sent them back to BM. She has been assuring us that the passport is in order and on the way. She has said this since Feb of this year. There is still yet to be a passport. BM now says she lost his birth certificate and the passport office needs this. So she tried to order another one, but that has yet to show up also. We are now down to 2 weeks, and we still don't know if SS is coming so we haven't booked him a flight. Is there a timeline we should give BM? I don't know to be paying an arm and a leg for last minute tickets. BM has also offered that she and her bf can drive SS to Disney, but without a birth certificate, he can't enter the states.
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We've been in a similar
We've been in a similar situation - not knowing if BM is going to produce the passport or not. Luckily for us, BM came through with the passport in good time. But it sounds like yours isn't going to.
I would give her a timeline and if you don't have the passport by the date specified, then say SS can't go with you. If he's sad about it, I'd tell him the truth about why you couldn't take him. You shouldn't take the blame for something that isn't your fault, especially when you gave BM as much notice as you did.
My husband and I decided this is the approach we would take with SD if this ever happens to us.
SS is 10. I don't know if he
SS is 10. I don't know if he has been bugging BM about it. DH has probably been bugging her more about it than SS has. I don't think BM is that evil that she's trying to not let SS go, it's more about her being irresponsible and not knowing how to do things properly.
I don't understand how a
I don't understand how a parent loses a birth cert, or soc sec card. Our BM did that too, or she just refused to turn it over.
Not including your home being destroyed but in this day and age, those documents are mandatory for everything, including kids sports program and school.
There's no way she's going to
There's no way she's going to get a birth certificate and a passport in under two weeks.
Make sure skid knows she is the reason he missed the trip. She will blame you for "not taking him'