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BMs mom taking us to court for grandparents rights.

newbiemommy's picture

This freaking drunk idiot is taking us to court. I thought for sure the courts wouldn't even process the paper work but she lied her ASS off. Plus, our system sucks so she will probably win. Her kids are ALL incarcerated or facing major charges. She showed up at my house drunk and screaming at me. She has had little to no contact with her period for the last 3 almost 4 years. There is a restraining order against BM for SD, DH, and myself. Bet you anything if she gets visits the first thing She will do is take SD to BM. I really think BM is instigating it as she was listed as the petitioner. But, according to the judge this is a "totally separate matter." In our state this case should have been thrown out. Gahhh. Stupid judge. Stupid court system. Stupid BM and her family. Grandma literally told me this has nothing to do with SD, it's about keeping DH under their thumb.

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hereiam's picture

Get a smart lawyer and arm yourself with the law in your state.

^^^This. Grandparents don't get rights for any 'ol reason, at least not where I live.

Ex4life's picture

Get a good lawyer that is experienced in grandparents visitation. Since BM does not have visitation right now that opens the door for possible visitation for grandma BUT if she has not had contact with grandma then there is NOT a bond between her and the children that would be harmed if they do not see each other. The courts will likely try to set up a mediation session. DO NOT under any circumstances agree to anything in mediation. Make the judge rule on the merits of the case. Its easier for everyone (but your side) if you agree to settle during mediation, but you will be the side that looses the most.

If it looks like the judge is going to make you do visitation with GBM then know that grandparent visitation is usually A LOT less then parental visitation. Its usually like one 8 hour day a month or 4-5 hours every other Saturday. Very rarely do they get "the parents time". Then insist on supervised visits in an approved setting with her paying for the supervisor.

simifan's picture

Grandparent rights are extremely rare & only ORDERED when the child has a bond with the child. DO NOT AGREE to anything. Make the court order you to have visitations. The only case I know of & yes I am in PA where Grandparent rights exist is where Grandparent lived with child before Mom died. She got 3 hours every three months. This is a bullying tactic.