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nettie's picture

im home alone, and in thinking how we stop having sex im mean we just got married a lil of a year ago,now he living ..at his bother's not a place of his own...because that what i wanted but thinking here...that we stop having sex a lil of alomost four months ago...he always had an excuse...no time ,money,and the famous im tried......

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klinder180's picture

....that a relationship is having major problems. Chemistry is that weird thing that seems to defy explanation. Except when its there you know it. You always want to be together. When it goes away it goes away almost without anyone noticing it. Then one day someone asks "Do you remember when?"

There is counseling -- there are even books on how to rekindle the romance. If the romance is not rekindled what will be left will leave the people bitter and angry.

Withholding sex never ever seems to work.

Kevin

holeekrap789's picture

sometimes the with holding of sex is REALLY NOT INTENTIONAL. I don't know about most people but when I am hurt,disappointed, or feel betrayed there is no way in the world that I have any chemistry or physical desire to be with the man I love no matter how much I truly love him.
I think the lack of sex is more of a symptom of a larger problem and when that problem is addressed the chemistry usually kicks back in
Lisa Dawn

nettie's picture

I STARTING TO THINK IT WAS ME...BUT AS I SEE IT THE MORE PROBLEMS I HAD WITH HIS CHILD THE MORE HE WITHDREW...I THINK THERE EMOTIONAL INCEST HERE..I NEVER KNEW OF SUCH A THING......BUT THAT WHAT I REALLY THINK.....I MEAN UP UNTIL I ASKED HIM TO LEAVE....EVERYNITE HE WOULD AFTER TO GO TO SLEEP WITH HER IN HER ROOM UNTIL SHE FELL ASLEEP..BY THE TIME HE CAME INTO OUT BEDROOM I WAS ASLEEP....AND EVEN WHEN SHE WASNT HERE NOTHING NOTHING WOULD HAPPEN AND IF I TRY FORGET IT....I WONDER WHERE DID THE LOVE GO ?

nettie's picture

that what i thought it was odd...i mean i dont think there anything sexaul but its how she has this hold on him...at first she was always in my bed with him at night having movie parties then i would after to wait uhtil she was good and ready for bed.....thats when the wine would come in....so i spoke up about that....so he would go in the room until she falls alseep..then it would be in the monrings...i get up early ....so if i was to go up again at some point there she was again...so i talk to him about that...and still he was going into her room she is 11 year young girl....wtf...i would go to bed alone everynite....forget about parties...she allover him....its pretty embarrsing i stop going to parties with them....people would ask me all kinds of question like wtf is going over there...meaning them...i go crazy just thinking about this....

frustrated sm's picture

I can totally see where you coming from, have my own D14 SS15 SD13 SD12. SD13 often seems to be feeling ill when we go to bed and needs daddy's att.other times she sits on his lap, rubs his arm, plays with his hair still kisses him on lips, all this makes me cringe and other people have commented on it too! She wasn't like this when we 1st got together 2half yrs ago just gotten worse since BFriend me and my D14 moved in together, SKIDS live with BM & STEPD. Sometimes i get SO jealous it like competing with other woman she touching him in ways i do! Also annoys me she still call him 'daddy' she 13 for goodness sake!

nettie's picture

I THINK WE ARE ALL RIGHT ,WHEN IT COMES DOWN TO IT ..I MEAN WHEN DO US STEPMOTHERS DRAW THE LINE ..WHEN DOES IT ALL END ...I MEAN I HEARD OF SUCESSFULY STEPPARENTS STORIES BUT THAT BECAUSE IM SURE THAT IT COMES ALL FROM THE GROWN - UP THEMSELF...I JUST DONT GET IT? I'VE TRY EVERYTHING ...(MAYBE THAT IT THE PROBLEM ) THAT I TRY TO HARD...BUT THEN I SAID NO..THIS SLEEPING CRAP THAT GOES ON AT THE AGE 11 IS ..LIKE I DONT KNOW I WISH THAT I COULD REALLY TELL MY STORY OVER THE PHONE...JUST TO SEE IF IM CRAY...SHE STILL CALLS HIM DADDY TOO....THERE SHOULD BE SOMEM KIND OF DEPENCEY ON HER PART ? EMOTINAL INCEST LOOK IT UP.....

Most Evil's picture

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