screaming continues.........!!!!!!!!
Hi all,
well this past weekend they came for a visit,me and dh are trying to work things out.the golden child had some homework to to on sunday night of course she wants to do it when im trying to work things out...and of course he say ok ( i will help you) homework time in this house are awful dh and her big fights break out between them.so i knew whats was comming....so i went to my room while they did homework and of course the big fight...yelling screaming kicking and slamming doors she when into her old room.
so he came upstairs and asked me if my kids were like that? i said no.....
i was P.O. he turn on the tv like if he still lives there...so i went down stairs sat in the dark while they had their homework fight,all i can hear is sd saying i hate you,and something about him and bm divorce and that he a big fat lair...on on on .....so finally i went upstairs and asked them to leave and do homework else where...he looked at me and say ((((FINE)))) storm out of the house with his child . i think things are not going to work out after all.....:0(
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Oh wow....
Deja Vu for me. The fights almost always occurred when she was having them do homework. Slamming doors; feigning migraines; screaming "I Hate you!"; got to love it when they bring up an 8 year old divorce as a reason homework can't be done....
My extreme sympathies for you.
Kevin
LIKE CLOCK WORK......
I GOTTA TO SAY MY OWN BKIDS WHICH ARE 29, 21 ,18 WERE NEVER LIKE THAT,
WE CAME FROM A WHOLE DIFFERENT WORLD THAN DH AND GOLDEN CHILD.HIS CHILD GET EVERYTHING SHE WANTS AND THE GRANPARENTS THINKS SHE AN ANGEL ....SHE CAN BE NICE WHEN SHE WANTS TOO ONLY IF THERE SOMETHING IN FOR HER..WELL THATS WHAT I SEE...MY KIDS CAN;T STAND HER.IT MAKES IT VERY HARD FOR ME BUT FOR NOW..WE AFTER TO LIVE APART I SEE NO CHANGE OTHER THAN HE WANTS TO COME HOME....BUT OF COURSE WE COULDN'T FINISH OUR CONVO ....IM BEGINNING TO SEE A WHOLE OTHER SIDE OF THEM....IM SO SAD
Nettie...
I've read your blogs, but just today read your bio for the first time. I wish I had some good advice for you, but unless and until your husband can get it through his thick head that he is actually HANDICAPPING his daughter, not HELPING her, I don't see a whole lot of hope for your situation. We have three girls... SD16, SD15 and BD4. They are all three Daddy's Girls, for sure, but none of them has ever slept in our bed or tried to usurp my position in the household. And even if they did, my husband would quickly put them in their place. Why? Because that's what you do when you are a responsible parent... you insist on appropriate behavior from your children so that they will know how to function appropriately as adults. I don't know what methods you've used so far in trying to reach your husband, but I think you're right in showing him some tough love and not letting him come home until this is resolved. The problem isn't your SD, it's your DH. He's allowing her to behave in an unacceptable and inappropriate manner. For whatever reason, he doesn't have what it takes to actually BE HER PARENT. You're a mother. You know that parenting isn't for the feint of heart. As much as we hate to see our children unhappy, sometimes we have to put our feet down and tell them NO. I don't know why your husband doesn't have the guts to be a real parent to his child, but he's going to be in for a rude awakening when she's in full-blown puberty. I pity the man! (Not!)
~ Anne ~
"Adjust on the fly, or you're going to cry."
Steve Doocy, The Mr. and Mrs. Happy Handbook
Anne
You need to write a book.
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