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myspoonistoobig's picture

So today I enrolled SS in a week of half-day soccer camp.

I did this knowing that when I tell him this afternoon he might bitch, because he wanted to do t-ball.

I TRIED to get him into t-ball, and even enrolled him in a weekend camp for t-ball, but it was cancelled due to lack of participation. Sad

So I put him in soccer.

Tonight, I'm thinking he'll bitch. I'm thinking I may bribe him to try and have a good time. I may look at him and say "Listen SS, if you TRY to have a good time at this camp, and behave yourself, do you know what I'll do? I'll put you in ZOO camp. Yeah that's right, I said it. ZOO camp. Which means you get to spend every day of an entire week at your FAVORITE PLACE EVER."

Hopefully he'll buy it.

I have him in zoo camp anyway, but getting this kid to make the best of anything at all ever has proved to be a pain in the ass, which I hear is normal with 5-year-olds.

If I'm really lucky, he won't even bitch.


myspoonistoobig's picture

I had thought of taking him to this cute pub for breakfast tomorrow where they have full english breakfasts and have football matches on the TV all the time!

And I have had a hankering for that place...

step off already's picture

My kids do different camps every year. They like some and they hate some. They like the counselors at some and they say the counselors are mean at some. They never all agree either.

myspoonistoobig's picture

Good to know.

Is it just me, or are we sometimes more worried about our Stepkids embarrasing us than our own children?

step off already's picture

OMG! I am so totally mortified by SS's behavior all the time. Granted, he behaves worse than my three children who are, of course, perfect angels }:)

But seriously, I think you're on to something. I know that I can tolerate and correct my own children's poor behavior much better than I can tolerate and correct SS - so that probably plays a big part in it. If i tell my own kids that they need to "get their acts together or else", it means something. If I say that to SS, there's no bite to it at all. He could care less if I was disappointed in him - but that's enough to put my own kids into a depression for the next 2 hours.

myspoonistoobig's picture

And even when he isn't acting up, I'm constantly terrified that he will infront of other people, because he's not in my house for 9 months of the year, and so most of the time I just don't feel like I KNOW him, but he's STILL a reflection on me! It's enough to make you drink!

step off already's picture

Chores are good too.

"You can go play soccer with the kids or you can pull weeds at the house. Your choice. Let me know ..."

myspoonistoobig's picture

The problem is that I'm trying get him to actually enjoy helping me with laundry and stuff, and so far it's working!

Making him sit still and do letters or something though? That would drive him bonkers!

Unfortunately I can't make good on it though, he'd just end up going to his daycare provider's house for more time, and she's a very nice lady. It would be terrible form to tell her 'hey, can you just be mean to him all week?'

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