Just getting Started
Well, I've never done this before, not sure where to start. I guess I should start at the begining with some background. the truth of the matter is, I met my husband because he worked with my ex. I know, I know, not the best way to start off a relationship , but knowing him for 6 yrs, my kids(2) knowing him,and us knowing each others history did make some aspects easier.He has 5 kids, the oldest, a son,became very ill after Desert Storm, and passed away. He took his son's death very hard, as anyone would.
He was always kind, thoughtful,supportive, and passionate. His oldest daughter never approved of me but she kept it civil. During the teen years , my daughter and him were like oil and water, I did my best to mediate but wasn't always sucessful. Once he gave me the ring, his daughter began to openly disapprove, when my father-in-law to be first asked to see my left hand , she stated "bets have been made that it will never really happen" I was horrified, shocked,embaresed, even angry. When i brought it up to him, at first he denied even hearing it, then it was "don't pay any attention to her, nobody else does" and "it's just the way she is". It hasn't stopped since.
But just over 2 yrs ago, he began pushing me away, emotionally, physically,... it was very hurtful. We tried one therapist, who was a Total D _ _ K. And it was hard enough to get him to agree to see that one. He recently started coming out of this "funk" and started warming up again and I found a new therapist who is AWESOME so far, and I think some progress is being made. Once he learns, communication, even if it hurts is KEY to peace, I will bring out our one and one point of serious contention (kid # 2) ( I give numbers to the kids in order of birth as identifiers for people don't know them by name) and pro pose a solution,hopfully with therapist support, and insist this be dealt with.
Have to go now, and get ready for work.