So yesterday, SD comes to talk to her mom about taking her shopping. DW told her she could go with a friend. Then SD showers and is now ready for DW to take her and a friend. DW didn’t say she could take them. She had a ton of ingredients all over for some food prep she was doing. This turned into whining and a growing attitude. I left the room as my input will cause an escalation of any argument. I went to my office and closed the door. The volume of the conversation started getting louder and I realized the topic had changed to a new cell phone. DW and I had already spoken about the phone she wants, which requires another 2 year commitment +$100. In the 2 years she has had a phone she has been through 6 phones. All but the 1st were used phones I was able to get from various people. One phone failed that I wouldn’t put any responsibility on her for. But that makes 5 phones.
I have no intention of extended a cell contract for an expensive phone that has all the bells and whistles she doesn’t need. It has ZERO chance of lasting through the contract, and odds are it wont go ½ way. Seems that if she buys it with her money then it should be fine…
I didn’t hear every word, but I heard the tone, the entitlement and telling her mom whats what etc. I don’t think Ive liked her less. Spoiled, entitled, brat is all I saw, and its getting worse and her mom will never change.. That’s all I see anymore. DW isnt stopping it. I cant continue to be any part of it.
I called DW to talk about a few things, including the level of discomfort I have with SD’s behavior and attitude during the phone talk. DW starts with ‘shes been stressed’ ‘she has her period’ and more. She asked me that I respect her relationship with SD. She stays out of SD and my relationship. I pointed out that we don’t have a relationship anymore. Im so frustrated with her unacceptable behavior, I cant say, hey lets get some ice cream… Time we are in the same room is getting more and more tense.
I asked DW if by staying out of the relationship with her and SD means saying or doing nothing regardless of what is said, done, no matter how I feel about it. Her answer was yes. It sounds like she is saying stay out of her life.
I told her I don’t know if I can do that. I cant separate my life living with 2 families, DW and SD is a separate family. Me, DW and BD are another. BD I suppose is part of both as SD is very good with her most times.
I wasn’t looking to take the call that far. I just wanted to express how uncomfortable and frustrated it was making me. I said we could talk later, she mumbled something, and I know her well enough that she is pissed now. I ended the call with ILY, she just hung up.
I feel like I had the conversation that has solid roots in what will be the end of my marriage.
The only other option I see is total disengagement. I don’t think DW will accept that either.
I feel sick.