She's created an entitled, self involved monster
So last week I posted that SD13 threw a fit on Thursday night, saying she didn't want to come to our house on the weekend blah blah blah
SO basically told her too bad, shes coming. We got down to the main reason she didn't want to come, which was because she knew she wouldn't be able to see her boyfriend over the weekend.
I tried to compromise with her saying she could ask her dad if the bf could come over for dinner or something, but that she wouldn't be allowed to go out with him alone. SO doesn't want her dating at all until shes 16. He's very old school.
Anyways then her story changed and she wanted to go to Church with her mom on Sunday morning. BM said if we dont let her go to church on Sunday than shes not coming to our house. So I told her she could go and then come back to our house after church. Well that wasn't good enough either and she freaked out again. We were talking at about 4:15 on Friday and she had calmed down a bit. She was worried SO was going to be mad at her for saying she didn't want to come. Then the water works started again. "I've been crying all day, you guys just don't understand, no one understands me, my life is so hard" blah blah blah. So I told her she needs to get ahold of herself. Its already been decided that shes coming so there is no reason to keep getting herself upset. This was all in text, and I didn't get another text from her after that.
I texted her at 4:40 to tell her I was on my way to get her and no answer. I show up at the house and her key is in the front door. I knock...no answer. I ring the bell...no answer. I opened the door and stuck my head in and called her name...no answer...I call louder..no answer. Yeah shes not there. I call SO and he tells me to check her bedroom. I check every room in the house and shes not there. I call BM and no answer. I called and texted SD and BM like 5 more times and no answer. So I drive around the neighborhood looking for her and cant find her and her phone is off. Finally I hear from BM and her text says "she took off because she doesn't want to go to your house. Just leave her alone for tonight". Are you kidding me??? You just let your kid "take off"????? What the fuck is wrong with this woman!
After many texts back and forth with BM, SO freaks out and says thats it. He's done. She doesn't want to come then find don't come. He is so disgusted with both of them. BM totally made it ok for SD to take off. BM's parents were the ones who picked her up!
BM even had the nerve to say that shes not going to make her come if she doesn't want to, and that she was taking her to see her boyfriend on Sunday after church.
This woman is insane and SD is completely effed up because of her. I just cant take this drama anymore.
BM just set a HUGE precedent for SD and now shes going to think she can just run away anytime she doesn't want to do something. Great parenting BM. Just fuckin great!
Oh and neither of them called over the weekend to explain or talk to us about it. And SD didn't even call to apologize for taking off. And BM says its up to US to call HER to talk to her about what happened! We tried calling SD several times but she had turned her phone off.
I just feel so bad for this kid. Her mother is so effed up and shes going to end up just like her. A little mini-me. Im so frustrated I don't even know what to do with myself. I've washed my hands of the whole thing. BM texted me this morning and I told her to not text me again. I'm not getting involved and not dealing with any of this shit until we go see the counselor in 2 weeks. She is impossible and thinks everything we do is wrong and everything she does is right. Her and SO are both to blame because they cant no-parent. They are both too stubborn and both want to prove they are right to the other! F. M. L!