SS18 knows how to pull the strings on DH. He has mostly given up with me because 1) I'm 75% disengaged (only engage if it's in my interest or im very pi**ed off about something)  2) I don't fall for his BS 3) I don't care.

SS18 sooooooo wanted to go back for an extra year at school. Was soooooooooo upset that his father suggested he not do that and to apply for the same line of work/education within the military. But... he 'lost' the form to order the books needed for next year, at a mere cost of 500 $ euro equivalent to DH of course. He 'can't find them' and started asking DH where they were. How the hell would he know? SS is the one who brought the form back from the school etc. Started saying 'maybe its on the website' and looking at DH. I know the look, it's the 'you should look it up for me papa' look.

Then it was the 'i cant possibly be expected to pack my own bag for scout camp' stance. really?? at 18?? DH was getting irritated by then and I heard raised voices. Went up and DH is eyes to the heavens. HFA kids never seem to learn, they don't want to because it's 'all on their terms' just like the psychitrist said at his meetings. Certainly noticing that 10 years on. Nothing ever changes.

This evening it appears that SS has not done his chores fully despite having to be reminded several times, is busy laying on his bed playing computer games. I then engaged... I don't want to but its go on a blood pressure spree or go in there and put the brat straight. I told him: off the computer, do your chores and when you get back from camp things will change. You will get NO computer time (or actually to use our electric to run his computer) unless all those chores are done and WITHOUT any reminders. There will be no more reminders.

I told him 'don't force me to get involved because the results will NOT be in your favor'