So I've been somewhat disengaged from SD11.8 for a while now, at least as much as I can be with her in my home everyday for a month this summer. I really don't say much at all to her or even look at her for that matter unless I HAVE to for some reason, but as I mentioned before it's kinda hard to be FULLY disengaged from her with my 2 BSs here and us being in my house.

Anyway, SD11.8 has the whole "innocent" role sewn up for H, but of course I see right through it as a formerly guilt-parented pre-teen girl myself.

Well, as I mentioned before, I've only ever laid down a couple simple rules with SD because she was only ever around EOW in the past. These rules were a bedtime of 10:30pm on weekends (9:30 weekdays) and NO EATING upstairs. My second rule is one I even lay down for ADULT house guests, including my own mother!

So lastnite I knock on SD's door (something I do out of courtesy but do NOT feel obligated to do with a female child in my home), open it, & say "it's 9:30, time for bed." I see her reach for the remote as though she's going to turn the TV off so I walk away. An HOUR later I walk past her room & see the TV lights flashing through the door although she's turned the volume down low so the TV cannot be heard. I'm PISSED because this is an act of BLATANT DEFIANCE in my opinion, especially since I also found popcorn on the floor went I into the room earlier that day! H is downstairs sleeping (as usual) and since this NOT even the first time this has happened and H never enforced any consequences when it happened in the past, I decide that I'm going to handle it myself. I chose not to acknowledge it at that time & went about what I was doing. Eventually she did go to bed before I went up to bed at 11:30.

This morning I said nothing to H (who was already at work as usual when we get up) or SD. Instead I just politely removed the cable cord & DVD connections to that TV so that it canNOT be watched until further notice.

This evening when SD eventually discovered what I'd done, of course she didn't say anything to me, but instead apparently told Daddy & he confronted me about why I did it & I told him to ask her because I was 100% SURE SD KNEW why already! Sure enough H immediately says "well she said she just lost track of time" and I said "NO, that's NOT what happened" & told him the TRUE story. Well of course since she has done this before and she'd even had the audacity to preemptively give him her "innocent" excuse this tine BEFORE he even confronted me with it, H couldn't deny it to be true, so he just walked away.

Now this just happened about 1 hour ago & H has gone into SD's room at least 3 to 4 times to check on SD already. LOL! ARE YOU KIDDING ME?! With a Nintendo DS portable game, a computer with unlimited WIFI Internet access AND a cell phone that he took from her but gave back after he was too weak to stand his ground still in that room that I did NOT take away, does he think she's really that "traumatized" by the lack of unsupervised access to TV shows & movies that are inappropriate for her age anyway?

What a JOKE!!!