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SD12 is moving?

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Submitted by mommylove on Fri, 05/13/2011 - 2:13pm

So SD12 posted on her Facebook status the other day that she is moving and is "very sad." I asked stbx-H about it and he said she'd called him the night before and told him but said she didn't know where and that BM wouldn't tell her when she asked. I asked H if he talked to BM but of course he said "no" because in true min-wife fashion stbx-H usually communicates with BM through SD12, allowing SD12 to make decisions and then trusting that SD12 will consult with BM on her own. He just said that he "assumes" she's not moving to far away and probably just [finally taking the next step and] moving in with her [long-term] boyfriend [that she's been with longer than stbx-H & I have been together!]

The apathy on stbx-H's part when it comes to parenting his child is just SAD!

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MamaBecky's picture

Submitted by MamaBecky on Fri, 05/13/2011 - 2:19pm

You would think that he would want to know for sure and not just assume. Ugh. Especially since SD is sad about it....that suggests that shes moving a distance, leaving friends, family etc...why elese would she be sad? Maybe she is just sad because she doesnt want to live with a new SF-like figure. Your H is pathetic for not even wondering or trying to find out. The fact that BM is not even telling her kid to be secretive is also alarming.

starfish's picture

Submitted by starfish on Fri, 05/13/2011 - 3:05pm

most co's that i know ofdo not require exes to inform each other of their living arrangements unless it's out of county/state or impacts visitation schedule...

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Submitted by stormabruin on Fri, 05/13/2011 - 3:24pm

DH's CO states that if either parent moves they are required to send the other parent a 30-day notice with their new address & send a copy to be filed in their court records as well.