OT - small children, chores and leadership
There's a chore chart out there with responsibilities even 2-5 year olds can do. And I think my kid, with me riding herd, can do each of those things.
I'd really like for DD3 to take on a bit more responsiblity for others in our home. It might be asking too much. She now chooses her clothes and dresses herself (although she has recently become obsessed with Frozen and has organized her non-name brand clothes into Frozen/not-Frozen and nothing in the non-Frozen category is worn anymore.... but I digress).
I know people have talked about teaching their children to make a gourmet dinner for 10 and to take everyone out later in the car for ice cream by the time the kid was 5... so how did you get the kid to do stuff around the house?
In other news I've decided to spin DD being dominant into her showing leadership, and instead of battling the dominance I've let her run with it. And it's worked very well for the most part. It's been a couple of days, and just today she seemed very upset. Apparently she got angry at a teacher in the daycare and threw her boots at her (!!! It got handled there, but everyone was very surprised, not just me!) She told me several times she wasn't going to do as she was asked, and once I had to pick her up and move her because she refused to move (she was in the middle of the road. Not a place to hold a discussion.)
So on the one hand, I am looking for ideas on how to encourage leadership. I literally asked her to be the leader on the way home and she *loved* that. And when she is being 'bossy' I now act all wow you know so much. But maybe you guys have more practical ideas as well?
And on the other hand, I think I need to watch my step that it doesn't become overwhelming. For example, yesterday I told her that I could see she was growing up and if she wanted, she could ride her bike to daycare today. She did, and talked about it a bit. Then this morning, we talked about it again, and she wanted to do it. She found it very upsetting at the start, and got very upset every time the bike stopped and she couldn't get it started (it's got training wheels). Twice she stopped to ask for a hug (awwww...).
So yeah, she's got a really intense emotional life so she's sensitive.... and she needs the outlet of being charge, knowing something, being good at something etc for that dominant side.
Just to be clear, I am very happy with her and don't want HER to be different. I'm just looking for ways to help her develop leadership skills and ideas on how to handle kids with super-strong emotions.
And also how to get her to do the tidying up.