Sheepishly still poking around
I might get roasted for this. I’m still with my BF, but I have no plans to move in with him at all. We go on a ton of dates on our time, and I spend about one day a month now at his place to try to keep some semblance of relationship with the SKs.
Of course he wanted me to move in. He makes more than me, but he’s financially forked by the $2400 a month he spends in CS, and all the extras he pays for as well. Here comes me with my guaranteed salary and pension. I actually take home much more that he does. So no moving in. He’s bummed but whatever.
His SD16 still pretends to love it when I’m there, but now that I’m not spending money on her, I’m “boring”. She talks about her mom now every chance she gets, about her new clothes and spa treatments.
His family told me that the ex kept the kids away, and they’ve seen them more over the last couple years of us dating than during the kids whole life. That was a terrible thing to hear, but I can’t re-engage.
My BF and I go on occasional vacations now, and the SKs are now told in advance and not allowed to complain.
It’s gone back to being fun, though not as much as before I’d met them. Our dates are easy, and I have my own space.