Why would you get roasted? You've heeded the red flags and worked out a situation that works for you. No shame in that. Now, had you moved in, then you'd get roasted.
All of your advice and comments, combined with worsening behaviour from SD16, woke me up. It would be impossible at this point to move in with him. I wouldn’t even have known how common this situation is if I hadn’t asked for help here. Thank you all, so very much.
If you want to continue having a relationship with him, that is your decision. You have heeded the advice you were given about not moving in with him and disengaging and that is good. Being true to yourself will eventually root out others' true motives, as you are seeing with SD16.
We have had married couples on this site that chose to maintain two separate households and they made it work. Your choice is valid and may lead to a happier couple.
Absolutely no roasting going on here! You made a very, very good decision to do what is best for your welfare and happiness, and you are doing it - and long may you enjoy it. If at any point this changes - then you can reassess and decide what's best for you when that time comes, which I'm sure you will. Your SKIDs sound a lot like mine, with an eye always on what they can get in terms of £££ in every situation. Personally I think THAT's boring and also distasteful.
Or he loves your money. He wants your money to move in so he has more to give his DD She should be treated whe way she wants. if this works for you, that all good, just remember he may never stop giving money to DD. So this can be your lifetime
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Why would you get roasted?
Why would you get roasted? You've heeded the red flags and worked out a situation that works for you. No shame in that. Now, had you moved in, then you'd get roasted.
All of your advice and
All of your advice and comments, combined with worsening behaviour from SD16, woke me up. It would be impossible at this point to move in with him. I wouldn’t even have known how common this situation is if I hadn’t asked for help here. Thank you all, so very much.
If you want to continue
If you want to continue having a relationship with him, that is your decision. You have heeded the advice you were given about not moving in with him and disengaging and that is good. Being true to yourself will eventually root out others' true motives, as you are seeing with SD16.
Carry on!
Congrats!
You have dodged a life of pain! This seems so much more sane for you - enjoying what's best about your partner, while keeping the chaos at bay.
So very happy for you! Here's hoping you continue to find happiness!
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We have had married couples on this site that chose to maintain two separate households and they made it work. Your choice is valid and may lead to a happier couple.
Absolutely no roasting going
Absolutely no roasting going on here! You made a very, very good decision to do what is best for your welfare and happiness, and you are doing it - and long may you enjoy it. If at any point this changes - then you can reassess and decide what's best for you when that time comes, which I'm sure you will. Your SKIDs sound a lot like mine, with an eye always on what they can get in terms of £££ in every situation. Personally I think THAT's boring and also distasteful.
Still poking
Great job my lady! I wished I did that with my first marriage. I lost it all!
So Kudos! Great example of loving yourself! And creating a happy retirement!
Heck date someone new!
Your BF loves you
Or he loves your money. He wants your money to move in so he has more to give his DD She should be treated whe way she wants.
if this works for you, that all good, just remember he may never stop giving money to DD. So this can be your lifetime