I would reconsider this relationship as well since he is the one telling you what you two are going to do instead of you have a equal say in the decision making. Does he really want another child is the question here?

Wow, that's a tough spot you are in. I am going to tell you the same thing I think most of us are thinking while reading this. It sounds like you have endured quite a lot to be with this man and now when it's his turn to make the sacrifices he's not willing to hold up his end of things.

At 29 you still have plenty of time to find someone compatable who wants the same things you do and to start your family. This won't be the last time you will have to give up or severely compromise what you want in life nor will it be the last promise broken.

It all comes down to how much you are willing to sacrifice for the oppritunity to love this man. I feel for you and hope you find what makes you happy.

Also, H has parked me around the corner and walked to BM's for pick ups/drop offs. This didn't last very long. After about the third time he did this I told him I'd be happy to just stay home while he went to get SD since he's so ashamed of me. The next time we went he parked in front of the house. The closer we got the redder his face got, his eyes got wider, veins were popping out...he looked like a deer in the headlights. He had never been in and out of that house so fast. He almost made it but forgot something and BM brought it out to the car. When she saw me she lost her mind. She banned H from the house and he had to meet her elsewhere after that.

In my opinion this was one of several good learning experiences with H as to how to stand up to BM and showed her that she had no control over our lives. Without me making it clear early on that he was not going to put me out to keep her happy, BM would have continued to try for years.

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My story is somewhat similar to yours but yet somewhat different. I was with my DH four years before we were married. He had three sons and I had one, I was 19 and he was 25. For some reason, my body did not respond well to birth control the two times I had tried it. My DH knew this from the beginning and we both knew we wanted more children, many more children. He would joke that we were going to have a baseball team. Typical male who didn't want to wear condoms, insisted his method of pulling out would keep me from getting pregnant, and besides if we did get pregnant we would just get married. So I am extremely happy as my DS had just turned two, my divorce had finally come through, and I was working. I was living with my mom but was working on doing what it took to get my own apartment. Then 14 months after we started dating, I found out I was pregnant. Do not get me wrong, I love my daughter more than life itself, but I cried and cried. I was so afraid my X would try to take my son away,(I was so relieved when he told me he was there for me if I needed him).

Well, his whole family was so upset that we had gotten pregnant you would have thought I had murderized someone. Then, he called me and told me he wasn't sure if he was ready to get married yet and he was sure I wasn't yet. That kind of hurt to hear after all of his big talk but I wasn't ready yet to marry him. I should have ran for the hills then! Honestly, I should have ran and I was only 20. I could have raised my baby by myself but was so inlove with this man, that I could not see he did not love me like I loved him. After I had to quit my job due to a difficult pregnancy, I came for the weekend and he would beg me not to go home so we just moved in together. Two weeks after our DD was born, my then three year old found a naked picture of him from the head down that he had scanned into his computer. Not only that, he had taken this picture with the camera he had bought me for my birthday. I cried and cried, I could not imagine why he would do something so stupid, was it to the same person who had sent him an im that said she loved him too? (see I Was STUPID, I found that im when I was 4 months pregnant and never confronted him) I had forgiven him when I found out he had been playing pool with his ex girlfriend three wednesday nights in a row and it had become a date night almost with them when we were dating. I mean, he was nice to me and didn't hit me or call me names, so I thought I was doing so much better than with X husband.

I forgave him and a couple years later when myspace was becoming popular, my best friend called me and told me she had to talk to me. She came over and showed me his profile and where he was talking to a 19 year old and how she missed him and loved him. I was leaving absolutely that time but then he started the begging and pleading of how much he loved me and how studid he was. Ok...... fast forward five years and husband and I have one child together. DH absolutely wants no more children even though he knows I have always wanted to have at least three BC. I had my tubes tied after DD because I thought, "Oh I can do this and wont have to worry about birth control for awhile and when we are ready, we can just get this undone". No one had told me I could have just had clips placed on my tubes or something simple such as that. DH has absolutely nothing to do with my BS unless he is disciplining him for his television being too loud. DH's three BS's live with us. My mother in law and I are the ones that ensure these kids have what they need with occasional help from SIL and SSs' maternal great-grandparents. DH seems to love our DD but refuses to go to any of her practices and has refused to help teach my DS how to tackle in football. I am 28 and seriously considering running for the hills again. I have worked on my education and am three classes from my Masters in Accounting. DH claims to love me but here lately, I have yet to see any proof that I am not just a glorified babysitter. Please keep us updated, and I am here to listen if you ever need an ear or eyes to read posts in this case.