Dear Valued Users,
It's with a heavy heart that we announce the permanent closure of StepTalk.org on August 31st, 2025.
This decision wasn't an easy one. For over twenty years, StepTalk has been a source of support for stepparents around the world! However, over the years, the costs associated with maintaining and upgrading the site to remain secure, meet current standards and maintain availability have become unsustainable.
We are incredibly grateful for your support, contributions and the community you've helped us build. Your engagement has made StepTalk.org a special place and we cherish the memories and connections made here.
We would especially like to thank Aniki for volunteering to be a moderator and for caring so much.
Thank you for being a part of our journey and we wish you all the best.
Sincerely,
Dawn and The StepTalk Team
Comments
MarthaGender
I'm so happy for you that things are getting better! One day at a time!!
Although I will say to you right now... be careful of that question!! In my opinion, it's a trick question.
You may see some responses like... it should be you, or your marriage or your relationship...
True, it should be. BUT and this is a BIG AS A BM BUTT...
The reality is that you may not get that answer because your DH may not be thinking along those lines. He may say whatever is bothering him for the moment (like work, or money) or he may say what he feels is his immediate responsibility as opposed to his long term relationship. (Ie... he may say, raising his child because he only has 18 years to do that, as opposed to something with you because he looks at you for the long haul... he has you in it "forever".)
It's a trick question because if he answers it wrong - and everyone agrees that you and your marriage should be number 1 - life doesn't always work that way.
I put in another post... that sometimes, when a marriage is rough, it's the commitment to each other that will get you through. And sometimes, when you are not committed to the PERSON, you can still be committed to the commitment of marriage and that's what gets you through.
It's all good on paper (and on screen)... but sometimes, being a good spouse means taking the back seat once in a while.
Be careful of the question and be careful of your reaction if his answer does not meet your expectations.
FOR STCK
thank you very nuch STICK your response is not always what i want to hear but its always the truth and the reality. i think i just need to grow up a bit and stop looking for problems, becuase im the only one who ends up being mad. i guess i have to work on me. thanks.
You marriage
My husband is a Christian. He puts God first and then me. Skids next. BM not on the list. If he didn't do this, we would have never survived.
DH is a way better person than I am.
"I know God has a wonderful plan for me, I just wish He would tell me what it is"