PLEASE HELP
IM NEW TO THIS SIGHT, HI EVERY ONE FIRST OF ALL I HAVE A 10 MONTH OLD BIOLOGICAL SON A 7 YEAR OLD STEP DAUGHTER AND A 14 YEAR OLD STEP SON. NOW THIS IS MY PROBLEM MY STEP DAUGHTER GETS ON MY NERVES. WHEN ITS ONLY ME AND HER SHE LISTENS TO ME BUT AS SOON AS MY HUSBAND COMES AROUND SHE STARTS BEING A BRAT. YESTERDAY ME AND MY STEP SON WAS AT HOME LISTENING TO SOME MUSIC WHILE I WAS COOKING. THE SEVEN YEAR OLD WAS OUT WITH HER FATHER UNPON RETURNING SHE TOLD HER FATHER SHE WANTED TO WATCH TV AND MY MUSIC WAS BOTHERING HER HE IN TURN TOLD ME TO TURN OFF MY MUSIC BECAUSE SHE WANT TO WATCH TV. NOW THERE ARE A LOT MORE STITUATION THAT I CAN MENTION I TRIED GETTING CLOSE TO THIS LITTLE GIRL LIKE DOING GIRLIE STUFF WITH HER. WHENEVER I TRY TO BRUSH UP HER HAIR IF WE ARE GOING SOMEWHERE SHE TELLS ME HER MOTHER SAYS THAT NOONE IS SUPPOSE TO TOUCH HER HAIR AND IF I DONT TRY TO FIX HER HAIR MY HUSBAND THINKS THAT IM JUST BEING MEAN TO HIS DAUGHTER NOW WE HAD A ARGUMENT OVER THE MUSIC THING OUT OF THAT ARGUMENT WE ARE NOW TALKING ABOUT DIVORCE. I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO BECAUSE WHENEVER THESE KIDS COME AROUND WE HAVE PROBLEMS. I TRY TO SET SOME BASIC HOUSE RULES BUT HE SAYS NOTHING TO THEM WHEN THEY BREAK MY RULES. THEY PUSH OPEN MY BEDROOM DOOR WITH OUT KNOCKING ONE DAY I WAS NAKED IN THERE I AM JUST SICK AND TIRED OF THEM I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO. I LOVE MY HUSBAND BUT I FEEL LIKE HE IS ALLOWING HIS CHILDREN TO CONTROL MY HOUSE HOLD AND I CANT DEAL WITH IT. SHOULD I JUST GO THROUGH WITH THE DIVORCE?
PLEASE HELP
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No don't go through with a
No don't go through with a divorce because of a 7 year old. she is having trouble because her parents are divorced and now your there. You need to sit down and talk to her and say you know what I understand you mom and dad are not together but I am here and I want us to get along not fight. You also need to speak to your hubby because he is just as much at fault explain to him your frustration and you both sit down and talk to the girl let her talk she is probably having a lot of problems because of daddies with another lady (it lasts for years) my kids did this to me when I got with their dad. I talked to them a lot and made them feel good about their feelings and now they are my best friends. Talking is good. Don't get a divorce because of this little girl. If your husband can't step up and see whats going on talk to him. He needs to listen to you as well you are all a family.
IM SO DEPRESSED, I FEEL JUST LOST, AND MY BABY IS THE ONLY ONE
MY BABY IS THE ONLY ONE SUFFERING THANKS FOR THE ADVICE MOLLY I DID TRY TO TALK TO MY HUBBY OH BY THE WAY DID I MENTION THAT HE SELPT AT HIS FRIENDS HOUSE FOR TWO NIGHTS AFTER THE WHOLE MUSIC THING. WHEN HE DID COME HOME I TOLD HIM THAT WE SHOULD SEEK COUNSEL HE SAYS HE DONT KNOW. HE SAY I JUST DONT LIKE HIS DAUGHTER FRANKLY THIS IS ME NOW GIVING UP. WE HAVE A 10 MONTH OLD SON TOGETHER AND I DONT WANT MY SON TO BE RAISED UP IN THIS ENVIRONMENT WERE HIS FATHER BAIL WHEN EVER WE HAVE AN ISSUE ABOUT HIS OTHER KIDS. ABOUT ABOUT HIS BABY DONT HE NEED HIS FATHER TOO. IM TIERD SOME PLEASE HELP. I WAS NOT RAISED LIKE THIS NOR DO I WANT MY CHILD TO GO TROUGH THIS IM TRYING HERE I DONT KNOW WHAT ELSE TO TRY
I know that your feeling run
I know that your feeling run down and crazy Martha. If he isn't going to listen to you maybe he has chosen his kids over you. It needs to be a two sided situation he cant just side with his kids and leave you and your bs out of the picture your a family now and familys there is sacrifice, disapline and love and it looks as thuogh he isn't willing to sacrifice anything for you. I am sorry I talk to my Dh about things and thats how we got to where we are now. YOu need to tell him that you understand his feelings too but he needs to be considerate of you and yourchild. If he can't and there is no way to get him to displine his kid for being disrespectful and Jelouse (which is a good lesson for her) Then I would Divorce. Relationships are about communication and comprimise. this is stress your baby doesn't need.
Hey Martha I hope your doing
Hey Martha I hope your doing good with your situation. be Strong.