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MareeN's picture

we had a big fall out last thursday with my sd 15 she was upset that i was pissed off with her brothers fighting all week i had enough and whack them on the arm once my son7 and my ss12 i no i shouldnt have, and that was it, i thought ss went to bed he closed his door and went into sd room as i was aware that he was asleep, i was watching tv with my sons 7 and 1, we got ready for bed and i told my son to open the doors as my dh hates the doors closed in the house so our rules are to leave them open, as i was grabbing the folded clothes and she screaming at my son to get the f..k out i said to her y are you talking like this to him and she started yelling at me your not my f..king mother i hate you get the f..ck out, i looked at her in shock and i said to her dont talk to me like that if you dont like the way i run my house there is the door dont let it hit it on ur ass, and leave you key if u wana leave, she started screaming blue murder i walked out and put my boys into bed and put a movie on for them, then i went back into the room and she said get the f..k out im trying to ring and screaming and i said to her give me the phone she reckons i put my hands on her neck i did not i put it on her shoulder trying to calm her down and ss 12 was screaming louder then her and more then ever b4, i was trying to calm them both down and i said to give me the f.cken ph she was screaming no and was punching upwards and then ss said to her jus give the ph as there aunty was on the other end i spoke to her and while they sd screaming still so i told her ill ring her back im just going to ring dh and he come home early losing $300 for the table to feed for 7mouths but did she care no she didnt, she didnt even budge to leave though she packed her bags and then i waited for her father for 20mins so i put the washing away and then knock knock at the door was my eldest sd17 arrive says hi i say hi wot u doing here? she didnt say anything and then she went straight into the room of sd15 they stayed in there until dh turned up he thought it was his bs but it was his bd he was in shock like i was
we sat down and we all spoke sd went first and she said i had hit her around the room and i just sat there paitently waiting my turn which we had the aunty still on the ph
i was glad we put the aunty on loud speaker and she said sd is lying i did not touch her thats she making it up and has egg on her face, we ended up talking till 2am as a family and alot of things come out i felt for her though, but it was time for all of us to wake up and see how much they think i dont do for them, as for the 17sd was asking me questions like do you no what happened to my bm and my bd while you was going with my bd i said to her look i never parted your parents they did it themselves i have nothing to do with that and i explained to them as well did dh did too and then i said to them get this if im not ur step mum or ur parent and i do as much as wot ur parents do what am i no one had nothing to say i felt so low and like nothing all these yrs 10yrs with this family trying to make it a happy family felt like nothing in one night
but the only thing that stood by me so much is my dh he cant believe how much his kids are changed i feel for him as i ask him for the help and he has to help each and everyone of us he told his kids if u dont like it here you can always move to ur bm and nothing was said
i have now realised i do to much im not going to do anything for them no longer ive given up where they are concerned .

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mylife7's picture

15 is an ugly age. I've been through it twice with my girls and a 14yr headed there soon (all bio children). I understand your frustration. I feel so much guilt when I am so done with everthing I wonder, do I have the strenghth to continue in this family (almost six years now. Dh has custody of SS8) or if I need the strenghth to walk away. I love my ss like he is my own, but drama and outbursts from his bio unit makes it hard to justify putting the other children in the house through this. Why is it so hard to just send love and why is it so easy for them to use that love as a weapon? Doesn't seem right eh?

MareeN's picture

Yes we have done exactly that sent her to her bm the bm rang today to tell me another story she said , I abused her bd and given her black eyes I told her u believe what you want, she will do it to u when she won't get her way and for the record I never touched her if she wants to live in my house she lives under my rules and its fine by me that she wants to live with bm least stress for me I don't give a fark if I'm a doormat to her ill do the same to her
i cant believe the sd can turn sumthing little into a huge thing, thats all we can do is she can have her bm i would rather not have her in my care no longer and the dh said the same to her after all these years this is what you do to us