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Really BM? You wait a week to tell us he's been suspended?!

MaddieH's picture

My FDH had a facebook message from BM yesterday afternoon asking if he was having SS this weekend - they have an every other weekend rota and so I've no idea why she thought he wouldn't be having him. When he said yes she asked what time / where (duh, same as normal!) and then casually mentioned "btw SS has been suspended from nursery". Like WTF? It's half term so I'm like huh? How has he been suspended when it's half term, to which she decides to tell us she had a meeting last tuesday after he "beat up a kid" on the Monday and they told her not to bring him back until after half term. Apparently she text FDH to tell him about the meeting etc - no! She text and said he'd *hit* a kid. There's a HUGE difference between "hitting" a kid and "beating up" a kid and subsequently being suspended!!

So frustrated and confused. The kid is 4 years old!!! When he's with us he's genuinely lovely. He's so polite and well behaved. Sure, he's a little hyper as he's excited to see us but he'd never ever "beat up" a kid in our presence. One of the things that also p*sses me off is that if SS does anything wrong, FDH will tell him off, but BM doesn't. She's pregnant again and all she cares about is "the baby". If SS is doing something wrong, she'll just let him carry on as it makes for an easy life. But even still, I can't understand how a four year old can be so loving and kind on a Sunday and then the following day gets suspended from nursery!! And why the heck didn't BM tell FDH straight away instead of leaving it a freaking week!!!

I swear, if I ever see her, I will knock some blooming sense into her! Although thankfully, FDH always picks up / drops off SS so I never have to see the crazy lady.

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Harleygurl's picture

My SS8 is on out of school detention today on his birthday! My honest thought is that it has a lot to do with permissive parenting. I hope you FDH can get a hold on it now. My SS8's BM let him get away with murder until about 1 1/2 years ago and they are paying the price now. It's so sad for these kids. They don't have the maturity to know that even though mom seems fun she is doing damage.

MaddieH's picture

Oh dear, that's not good. I can see SS going the same way if BM and FDH aren't careful. When I say she lets him get away with things, what would be more accurate is to say BM picks him up from nursery around 12:30, takes him to her mum and dad's so she can go to "work" (which is basically her boyfriend's work and she just hangs around and doesn't get paid or anything) and then picks him up around 6:30pm. Her parents just stick him in front of the TV and don't interact with him, tell him off or anything. I feel so sorry for the kid! On the rare occasion she does have SS, she puts the TV on for him and then goes to sleep! I mean come on, I know she's pregnant but REALLY? If you can't deal with a 4 year old and being pregnant, you shouldn't have sex without a condom. I don't get it, SS was planned, this baby wasn't. Of course, that doesn't mean being unplanned should mean you love them any less but she's ranting and raving saying how awesome "the baby" is and doesn't give two hoots about her first child she planned! Sad